I am depressed, I already asked a question about this but no one answered! Please answer and give me advice!?

Question

I am always up and down. I am 14 years old and tomorrow is my first day of high school. When I was in 7th grade, i was pretty popular with the girls and everyone else. Then when I was in 8th grade, I lost alot of my friends and I lost the power to talk to most girls! I am now shy around most girls but not all! I have about only 3 guy friends now. I am really worried about homecoming and prom and not going. Plus, my family isn't so great. My parents are divorced. I live with my mom and my family hasnt gone on vacation in about 7 years, we went to the Wisconsin dells. We don't do much family wise usually. My bro is a sophmore in college and the other is 24 and they are great to me. But, i do really like my aunts, uncles, and the rest of the family. So, what I just need alot of advice is on girls and friends because my Family isn't so bad. Pease give me some HELP!! I also play football but I really hate it cause for some reason, it makes me depressed. But, I play cause my family might be disappointed at me. I just don't like the fact of getting hit for 3 hours straight!

Answer 1

look just be confident, as long as you act confident and you are nice to people and funny people will like you.

and about the girls, just be yourself.

trust me I'm a girl and if you are trying to get a girl and you do everything for her, you will end up sad and with someone that just wants to use you

so just don't mind, feel fine just high school isn't as big of a deal as people think it is.

Answer 2

You don't have a bad life at all. Why don't you focus on the things that you do have and the friends that you do have. Changing friends and girls are all about growing pains. Everyone goes through it. If you don't like football then quit. Look around Yahoo Answers and the people around you. They are in horrible situations and you have a good life. Be thankful of that.  

Answer 3

What you need is a real boost of confidence. Its perfectly normal to worry about homecoming and prom etc, almost everybody that has a heart shares the same feeling. The 'will anyone want to go with me' feeling is everywhere across the world. Even in England!

Its also perfectly normal to lose the confidence to talk to girls, its the same for girls as well!

Perhaps as you say, your parents divorce is affecting you, but you shouldn't let it! Talk to your parents and if you feel uncomfortable doing that, maybe your brothers that you speak so highly of, my do it for you.

Its also must be really tough not to have been on holiday and to escape from home for a while. When I was to trying to escape my depression after a violent robbery in our house in England, I went to stay with my family in Ireland. You seem to like other members of your family, so why not try them?

In addition, it is a common feeling shared by everyone to want to live up to their parents expectations, But I really think that you should be doing what you want to do, and the more you play football, I think the worse your depression will get.

I really appreciate how difficult it must be to relate your feelings to complete strangers, But I know for a fact, that there is a light at the end of every single tunnel that we pass through, and personally, I am proud to have experienced them, because they made me a lot stronger person!

I promise, you will get better! Good Luck!!!!

Answer 4

In order to be happy you need to do the things that make you happy. If you don't like football then you shouldn't play. Don't worry about whether or not it upsets your family. Be honest with them and tell them how you feel. It may also be a good idea for you to tell them that you are feeling down. It may be due to your current lifestyle ( stress with family and friends) or it could be hormonal and you may need some meds to even out. Either way you need to tell your family how you feel so you can get the right help and advice.

Find things you enjoy and people you enjoy doing things with and that'll help you out. Try not to worry about homecoming and prom. Take it one day at a time. You may also want to find a form of "coping skill". This is a healthy outlet/ stress management. For me, it's running. When I'm stressed or frustrated, I go for a run. I also go to kickboxing. Some other ways are deep breathing, warm baths, even counting to ten...

Answer 5

we pretty much hav the same life. . .

so with girls (if UR willing) u hav to agree with things they say BUT hav ur own opinion dont let them push u around!

and with frends, thers going to be some1 in ur yr that u think is really nice so just u no tell some jokes and talk to them but don't hang around them too much or else they'll think ur weird lol

Answer 6

At 14 you are finding yourself. Hang in there. It isn't as bad as it seems. You will be just fine going to school. You may be even better than grade school. As for football, if that is not what you want then talk to your mom or dad. You shouldn't have to play if it's just to keep someone else happy. The girls will come and go, your young yet so just enjoy it and respect any girl that follows your way.

Good luck to you.

Answer 7

Everyone gets sad and depressed at this age in life. There are many things changing such as starting high school. It's normal to feel a bit strange. Just relax. You still have friends and you will be able to make more once you start school. Just be you. You don't need to try to be anyone else. It will all work out. It doesn't matter if you have 100 friends as long as you have at least 1 good one and it sound like you have a couple. Good luck!

Answer 8

You might be just suffering from a hormones out blast? Anyway, if you hate football, don't continue to force yourself to play it. If you are really suffering from depression, it will only make your conditions worst. In most school, they do have councilors. You may wish to arrange for one visiting session with them. No worries, all councilor sessions are required to be kept a secret, so no one beside you and the councilor will know wat kind of conversation is carried out during the session.

Way to talk to girls? Just be yourself is the only kind of advice i can give. Speaking from a female point of view, as long as tt guy don't do stupid things, sooner or later, we will take note of you. no worries.

To speak the truth, i don't quite understand your last sentence, wat do you mean by U just don't like the fact of getting hit for 3 hours straight? Are there any one whacking, hitting or abusing you? If there is, please seek help from the police. As you are still in ur late childhood development, it might scars you emotionally and physically for life if abused is bought to you. Don't suffer in silent. Be the abuser is ur close friends, relatives, parents or sibling. Don't suffer alone, real Depression require medical attention although it may be a life long illness but you can still get it under control.