I am desperate for someone to talk to. Please?

Question

My husband and I have no kids. We have been TTC for 3+ years. I am only about 6 dpo but I really feel like (hope) this is our month. Because...

Yesterday, I felt very nauseous, but only for about 5 mins, that was it.

Last night, we were "bding" and when we were done, he said (jokingly of course) "did you lotion me up before we started or what?" Lately I have had so much white (lotion-looking) CM and now I'm sure you know why he said that.

Today, I took about 4 bites of cottage cheese (I love that stuff and usually eat a container in a day if I pace myself) and for 15-20 mins later my mouth tased like rotten milk. It was so gross!

The last couple days I have been a little constipated as well.

None of these things are normal for me, which is the reason I think this is our month. But the reason I am having so many problems, is because I also think this may not be our month because other than what I have said above, I have not had morning sickness, the change in CM could be something else, I don't know how to explain the cottage cheese thing, and I know there are other explinations for everything. I have 1 HPT left. I know I can't use it yet, but I don't want to tell my husband about any of this because (BTW I tell my husband EVERYTHING) lately he has been getting his hopes up when I think this is our month, and I always let him down.

Last month, I had spotting the day before AF (only when I wiped) so I told him about it. (My whole life I have never had that once.) I was sure I was going to get a BFP. So we were getting ready to go to Walmart to get a HPT and one of his friends came to the house. So he talked to him for a little bit and said he had to go because (and I don't know exactly how he said it) but he said something about a ticket (he told him we thought I was pregnant). And he never tells anyone where he is going or what he is doing because he doesn't think everyone needs to know why he is leaving or where he is going. The only reason he said anything this time was because he was so excited that this was it. But guess what, I didn't! I just really need someone to talk to. I don't want to talk to family or friends for the fear that I will tell them everything and get a BFN, and I don't want to tell my husband so he gets let down again.

I really need someone to talk to. What do you think?

Sorry this was so long, and **Baby Dust** to everyone that needs it. I am going to test before we leave (going to see family) and if I get a BFN I really hope one of you gets my BFP! Good Luck to everyone this month!!

Please try to calm me down. I am going nuts and have no one I can talk to about this!!

Thanks again!

Answer 1

I have only been ttc for 6 months but I find myself getting more frustrated every day so I can't imagine how you must feel after 3 years:(  If you need to talk more in depth or need any info, feel free to e-mail me. I was charting and doing all of that stuff and also getting alot of false information on here and the internet calenders about when I was ovulating...that may have something to do with me not conceiving yet. I have talked to my ob this past week and I am now using the ovulation pee sticks.

Answer 2

You need to RELAX!!!  This may very well be your big month, but you won't know until you take the HPT.  I hope you get the BFP you and your husband are wishing for.

I also have a husband who is a bit "overly hopeful" sometimes.  Every little ache, pain or upset stomach "Maybe you're pregnant!" and I hate so much to let him down with a BFN.  It's hard to face that every month. But we still try and we are now going to see a RE at a fertility center and get into high gear.  It's exciting and frustrating and a whole bunch of other emotions all rolled into one, isn't it?

Speaking of "bad tastes", when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, I could not eat any kind of fish, and I LOVE fish.  But the mere taste of any of it sent me to the bathroom!  Sort of like the cottage cheese you mentioned!  I truly hope you get the answer you guys are hoping for!

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

My wife will answer this one.

Hey, when we were trying I too the month that I found I was pregnant didn't think I was. I tried the First Response test 5 days before my period was due and it was negative. Then I took another one on the day I was due and it was negative. Then my period was 4 days late and I took another and it showed positive. About 2 weeks before and leading up to the postive test I had more white discharge than I normally did. But my nipples weren't sore and I didn't feel sick so I wasn't sure if the test was true as the others said negative. I got a for sure when I went to my doctor later that week, but when I asked him he said that what I experience is normal. Most women don't feel sick at all and I didn't through my whole pregnancy, not one day of sickness. So you not feeling sick does not mean you aren't pregnant. Also, I never got sore b***s or nipples until well into my second trimester. Constipation is a sign of pregnancy and so is losing your taste for foods you usually love. So I hope that you and your husband will finally get what you want    

Answer 4

Well let's start with the fact that you MAY be pregnant because you are not always going to have EVERY symptom of pregnancy but It DOES get frustrating to be trying for so long and hoping and praying....and get another Negitive.....even seeing a positive line that isn't there...   ;)  ..... but I have heard from MANY people that if you want it to happen REALLY bad ..... It won't....but if you stop trying so hard and basing your every thought and every move and revolving it around every aspect of yours and your husbands life...it happens....I personally think that if you try too hard it stresses the body....but every one has thier own thoughts on it....but let's give it a few more weeks take that test and just for fun while your taking the test say to yourself "it's gunna be another negitive I just know it will" and maybe it will change the outcome of it but if you are not pregnant just keep that chin up and continue to try.........it was once said that the only time success comes before work is in a dictionary.........i hope i'm helping i'm not good at advice but I try to stay positive and take it a day at a time and make the most of it....don't make it to be a chore like "at 10:30 on wendsday and friday we try then on monday tuesday and thursday we don't then saturday and sunday we do it  ten times by the end of the day" hahaha i'm trying to cheer you up   :)   well good luck and ALL THE BABY DUST IN THE WORLD TO YOU....bye hun (  P.S. m y response was long too but you get carried away in your thoughts...others just have to understand how much it means to those off us that want a  child very much.)  :)

Answer 5

Ok so i completely know how you feel, I am 6dpo also and i have had a monster headache/migraine for the past 4 days and i have been nauseous today and yesterday. Also today i had light cramping and i have also been kind of constipated the last few days. I took a dollar tree test today and got a BFN i know i shouldnt have because it is wayyy too early but it was only $1 so what the heck. :) I completely know how you feel about dissappointing the DH because my husband gets excited too and then we get let down. I hope and pray that we get our BFP this month and for some reason i feel like we will :) Good luck and tons of babydust and just remember you are not alone in this!!!!