I am fed up, confused, stressed, sad, and much more

Question

my daughter is in a relationship which she knows is unhealthy, she is engaged. she broke the engagement for good reasons. now she is back. with this person she does speed, ecstasy, marijuana, and drinks too much. she said she was going to quit everything when she leaves. but now she is back and in the same situation. i am so upset and frusterated.

how can i handle this, i want to talk or email her. but i won't because i have been bugging her alot about not going back. what should i do??

Answer 1

You need to let ur daughter make her own choices in life either it be good or bad and always be there to steer her the right way but you really can't do anything other then talk to her to do the right thing. Hopefully as time goes by she will soon realize that she needs help! If you pressure her into doing something to help herself it wont help her. She needs to realize for herself she needs help and then she will get better.

Answer 2

Pray. Honestly they won't get help until they really want it. The best thing to do is step back and pray. If you bug her to much she will resent you.  

Answer 3

As hard as it is, she needs tough love. What is her age. If you still have gardianship, than go for somekind of intervension. She will thank you for it later. Later, when she has it together, she will want her mother around. If you got your stuff together and are strong enough, seek help for helping your daughter. I feel sorry for you, because your intensions are so in the right place, but you dont feel like you have anywhere to turn to. You do. Good luck!! Gotta take good care of yourself to be able to care for others in a way that is helpful.

Answer 4

I have only A sentence to tell u what: please do not get upset with this: ok? promise?

YOU SHOULD CARE ABOUT PEOPLE AS LONG AS IT DOES NOT HURT U. I mean look at ur Q: im fed up, confused, stressed, sad and much more............. what is this???

U have the 1st place in ur own life, live ur own life

A PERSON WHO DOES: "speed, ecstasy,marijuana, and drinks TOO MUCH cannot quit (im sorry 4 saying this but), THIS IS UR DAUGHTER'S DESTINY.

Leave her alone, or if u r going to help her THIS IS GONNA TAKE SEVERAL YEARS FOR HER TO QUIT ALL THESE THINGS, and U R GONNA HAVE TO KEEP THE STRESS WITH U.

I left my mom years ago, she had the same problem even worse, i havent talked to her for ages......

LIFE IS COMPLICATED.!!!!!!

Please dont be upset with this ANSWER.

Answer 5

It is a very difficult situation indeed! this is age when children think that there guardians are disturbing them. You have to talk with her politely and with a cool mind.. there s no situation, than human cant get rid off. it needs only a little bit patience.. share time with her and behave with her like a friend.. as much you be a friend, she will come closer, but if you show yourself that you are a guardian, show will go gar from you.. Best of Luck!

Answer 6

I'm not a mother myself but what I learned from my mum is that she makes mistakes,and sometimes she does it right.But all of them,I know,come from some place that is right,which is love.You know you already have the answer,just follow your heart.

Answer 7

wow. i wish i have a mother who sympathizes like you do.

anyway, go talk to her. you can make a difference you know... talking with her one on one would make her feel loved and special.. and this will help her a great deal.

try arranging a wonderful dinner with her, cook for her.

and then strike up a conversation with her, ask what her problem is.. she may be suffering because of a problem or something. by doing this, your relationship with her would be deeper. maybe she needs an extra push from you... who knows? you might be the one who would yank her out from her addiction and misery..

hope my answer would help.. :-) God bless.

Answer 8

Sad to hear that situation.  I understand how you been through in this problem.  I know you love you daughter.  Just be honest and be straight forward to your daughter. Try to convince her to leave the guy, once and for all. If she will not listen to what you say to her of this unhealthy relationship, Well I guess, it's her choice you have done your part to be her mother.  

Answer 9

I think she needs some serious professional help. Maybe you should take her, since it's affecting you also and you can support her.  

Answer 10

Go on holiday with a friend of yours

You cannot live yr daughters life for her

Or take her on hols away from her situation & hope she sees things differently!

Answer 11

i really don't know.

this is one heck of a situation.

i don't think i can do much help here, but i would just sit down and talk straight up to her. like, face-to-face. because you're the mom and you should have main control over her life style, right? im not saying it's your fault for all of this cause IT'S NOT.  but you need to set her straight and telll her that she needs to GET HER LIFE BACK ON TRACK. but i don't know much more i would say to her, if i were being you, and all.

hope this helped;

MUCH LOVE,

-jesssssi :D

Answer 12

make her go to a theraphy

Answer 13

i have similar problems  ive found out leave her to Her own devises she will leave when shes had enough

Answer 14

Take her to a psychologist for a detail counselling.