I am feeling intense pain of seperation?

Question

I am a college guy , I am a g*y & I had a crush on my professor who is around 26 , I am 18 I am a college guy , I am a g*y & I had a crush on my professor who is around 26 , I am 18 ; But now he is permanently going out of town , & He may never meet us again ; To be honest , As he is going , I am feeling liking a part of my own self is leaving me , How do i relieve myself from this ??

Answer 1

Seems like you like him too much and made him a part of you. Try to keep your mind off of him.... well you can play sports 24/7, keep yourself busy... or you can find someone else to "like" lol xD

Answer 2

Hello, your feelings of grief are understandable and there is really not too much you can do about them.  Never allow your grief to absorb you; seek out another to console and you will find your own consolation. Samuel Johnson once wrote:

"When grief is fresh, every attempt to divert only irritates. You must wait till grief be disgusted, and then amusement will dissipate the remains of it."  

Answer 3

By understanding that what you're going through and feeling is normal.  By trying to keep your mind and body busy by getting involved in other activities, and by consciously distracting yourself when you find yourself obsessing about your professor.  It takes time, but it will fade.  Grief lasts only as long as you allow it to.  Good Luck!  

Answer 4

What you are feeling is like a breaking up in any relationship and your feelings are normal.  My advice to anyone that has a breakup in their relationship is to keep busy.  Keep your mind busy and try and have a few friends you can call and talk with when you feel yourself getting anxious over the seperation.

A good technique is to also "allow" yourself a set amount of time to think and to be upset over your loss one.  For example, you have 10 minutes in the morning to cry and think of him and to be anxious.  Afterward, force yourself to keep busy, read the comics, go to work, keep busy busy busy.  In the afternoon, allow yourself another 10-15 minutes of "thinking" of him and then go back to being busy.  Do the same at night, but not before bedtime.

Gradually diminish the "thinking" time and you'll see that before you know it you will be fine.

This takes discipline and you'll need a good support system of friends and family though.  If you don't have it, keep your mind extra busy.

Everyone goes through break ups, it's a normal part of life.

Good luck,