I am freaked out here! Please help me.?

Question

My uncle (mom's brother) has been around since I was born. When I was very small (I am 16 now) as far as I remember he used to live with us. I love him more than anything and since my father was never really in the picture, he was like a father to me.

He has his own place and has never been married but he had an occasional girlfriend he would sometimes bring over. Him and mom are very close and he spends most of his time with us. He has a great job and as far as I can tell he supports us financially as well.

My mom is really pretty but has never had any luck in love but she is a great mom to me and she is a very happy person.

Well, I;ve never questioned before why we spend every vacation with my uncle (the three of us travel a lot) and why he is around that much and why if he is away on business him and mom talk for hours.

But a few days ago I came home from my friend;s place early and I found them kissing and being very inappropriate (but not having s*x, thankfully, although it did seem like they did or they would) I was totally disgusted and I ran out. They didn't see me.

I am freaked out. I don't know what to do? Should I tell my mom what I saw? On some level I am afraid that if I do she will tell me that he is my real father or something freaky like that.

I am so confused people and I feel like my whole perfect little world is totally falling apart....

HELP!

Answer 1

I would talk to your mother about what you saw. Something like this will of course cause you a TON of confusion. It would confuse pretty much anyone. Go to her and get answers because incest is not good.

Answer 2

Whoa!  You have every reason to be freaked out.  Do you know for a fact that he is your Mom's 'blood' brother?  Does he call your grandparents 'mom and dad'?  Just curious.  Sometimes mother's tell their kids to call people aunt and uncle as a term of affection.  If you are sure he is a blood relative, your mother and her brother need help.  You need to tell her what you saw and how it made you feel.  This can really mess you up if you don't deal with it now.  Maybe you can talk to a counselor as well.  It would probably help.  I wish you the best.  

Answer 3

maybe this guy is not your biologically your uncle.. maybe your mother told you he was your uncle so you would feel safe around him instead of some stranger who could do anything.. but now you getting old you should speak to your mom and you should know

Answer 4

ask her if your uncle is really your uncle and if she says yes then say why to you kiss and she'll act like she doesn't know and say yeah i come home early and saw you ... right?y? I'm confused and she will tell u the truth

Answer 5

you have every right to be freaked out. I would let my mom know what I saw, and that she needs to explain what is going on. If you don't think that you can handle the answer then don't ask the question

Answer 6

im sorry to bust your perfect little world but id say if you caught them like that there is things going on that you dont see as well..this is something that they probley started as young kids back at home and its something that they never quit doing...it has happened more than you know...i hate to say but they are lovers and have been for a long time. probley started when they were younger teens. so i say just let it drop and dont say nothing cause if its been going on this long you aint going to change it...you will just bring hard times on everyone and yourself. id say this is something yoiu dont  want others to find out so id keep quit about it...good luck..and sorry..

Answer 7

I'm really sorry about that. Honestly, there is no real excuse for them doing that. You need to tell both of them what you saw and tell them that you think it is disgusting. Are they blood related or was one adopted or step siblings? Either way that's still gross. You need to talk about this. Do they have any other siblings? If so you might want to talk to them and see if they know whats going on.

Answer 8

WoW!  Thats quite hectic.  Yip you are pretty much at the age where the 'stuff' starts coming out.  I would suggest you talk to your Mom about it.  I dont think you should analyse it too much and freak yourself out even more, Rather get the story straight.  So your mind can get around the  one truth as opposed various scenarios that are running around in there.

Answer 9

maybe he is not your uncle.  

Answer 10

EW! Yes, tell your mom what you saw but don't be accusing. Say that you saw them kissing.  

Answer 11

you should ask your mom whats going on. That IS a little weird.

Answer 12

Ella, it sounds like this might have been going on for some time already. I think you would be very justified to tell her what you saw, especially since its bothering you so much. She might deny everything so be prepared for that.

Answer 13

I think you should tell her what you saw.  Just sit her down and talk to her in a nice calm manor trying not to be accusing. Ask her is there more to your uncle and let her know you can handle the truth.  That is if you can handle the truth.  If you cannot handle the truth just let it be.  

Answer 14

Wow. Well kiddo, welcome to the real world. You are going to have to talk to mom or this is going to eat at you and ruin your relationship with your mom and uncle. So what if he is your real father, which I really doubt, so what if he and your mom have a relationship. If they are happy and you are happy and that's the worst thing that they ever do....so what?

Now, as a Christian, I believe it's against the bible for brother and sister to have relations. But, it is not my place to judge, nor yours. Keep your relationship with your mom open and be honest with her. Hopefully she will be honest with you. Good Luck and remember your sixteen and you are capable of handling situations that are difficult for you. Don't forget, never hide from any of your disappointments, problems in life. Face them head up and head strong. You will have less stress in your life and be much happier in the long run. Good Luck To You