I am frustrated with my mother,,, I am 40 yrs old and?

Question

Struggling with my wieght (I have a thyroid condition) that has put quite a bit of weight on me when you have thyroid situation it is not easy to loose weight.

I have told her (kindly) to back off on more then one occasion. I am fed up she allwasy worries my health. And expresses it I am just tired of it. SHe allwasy says the doc does not seem to be helping you. I am just tiresd of it!

I am built like my Dad unfortunatly so I have 2 wammies against me Her stupid thyroid problem passed onto me and Dad's frame.They are all heavy On dad's side.

She has thyroid too but only has had to battle 20 lbs most of her life woopie!!

It just ticks me off! What do I do??? Please kind ansers only I am just tired of hearing about it. I am doing my best I have given up sugar and watching what i eat too.

Answer 1

number one  i have hypothyroidism too but i also over eat so i cant blame all my fat on this  i am an overeater and its a battle  tell your ma you are tired of hearing about the weight issue and if she keeps harping on it you will be seeing her less and mean it  be calm and assertive with her  tell her this talk hurts and you no longer want to hear it  i am on synthroid now and that helps with the metabolism(faster)  also somewhat watching my diet  no as good as i could be but---- before i even got on the synthroid i lost 50 lb on the low carb diet  it isnt that hard of a diet to follow but like any diet your heart got to be in it

Answer 2

Say "Thanks Mom, let's go for a walk together right now".  That will sink her ship for a bit.

Answer 3

Been there done that.My mother and grandmother were anorexic so they were always thin.My dads family were german with typical german build.(healthy)with a normal appetite.She commented on every pound I gained and everything I ate.Just remember she probably means well,although I know it doesn't feel that way.Just keep telling her to but out .If that doesn't work return the favor and do the same to her for a while maybe she'll get the messege

Answer 4

Be strong, be healthy and appreciate your caring mom.

Answer 5

try sitting her down and having a heart felt conversation.  tell her that you love her and that you appreciate her concern over your weight issues...but...tell her that it is truly hurting your feelings and that it is a personal and private manner that you no longer want to discuss.

from that point, every time she brings it up, simply end the conversation or visit by telling her that she has overstepped her bounds and that it is time for you to go.....hopefully, she will soon get the message and back off that subject.

i truly hope this helps...i know your pain ( i have recently lost over 100 pounds...yet weight is still a "no-no" conversation topic in my presence)  

stay strong and God bless!

Answer 6

Give her a hug

Answer 7

Well your weight comes from the thyroid problem if it works too slowly you gain weight if it works too fast you lose weight plus there are other side effects.. Maybe you could consider an operation.. Mom's never stop being concerned... I am 45 and mine bugs me all the way from Germany and I live in Canada... LOL.. that's an alternative.. move to another country or contient.. she does it because she loves you.. just try to tell her in a calm way, that she should not worry and that you think it serves no purpose to bring this subject up all the time.. as it upsets you and you would like to not have figthts with your mom as you love her, too, but too much concern on her part just is not helpful at all on her part.. to please stop talking about this that you can cope fine'' if she feels you are ok with it she will worry less.. it's usually not what you eat.. if you got this thyroid problem you have to deal with weight issues.. and yes to cut out junk food is ok and a good idea.. but you need to eat healthy food and maybe go swimming.. as exercise burns a lot of calories.. and swimming exercises all the muscles in your body and you don't have to sweat and it's envigorating and refreshing just now in the heat of the summer...xx It's not her fault either that she got a thyroid problem, you should reach a compromise... talk sensibly.. to each other. you won't blame her that this is heriditary and she stops talking about it all the time...  but ask if an operation might help... asking doesn't mean ''do it'' just find out if it would help...

Answer 8

moms are always like that, just change the subject around her.  take her to a bowling alley, too noisy to talk over there.

Answer 9

I deal with that to an extent too from family members (not just one in particular like you) so I have it coming from all angles. Though some are more helpful than critical it is still annoying and very embarrassing to have a family member say to you "should you be eating that?" I have gotten to the point where when they say the more irritating comments, I calmly and politely say..."I'm having a bad day and do not care to discuss this matter at this time" and I simply remove myself from their presence. Some family members get that it is annoying, least wise in my case, but I do have 1 that doesn't know when to quit. So just stay calm yet firm, state your feelings and leave the room. I know it has got to be difficult to hear it from your mother most especially since moms are normally the one you want to go to when you need advice on stuff like this. Here's an idea. Make up a hypothetical question and ask your mom her advice. Like say you have a friend that is trying to quit smoking and her husband is always on her case. He hasn't ever smoked so he doesn't understand the addiction and the craving a person experiences when trying to quit. She is really having a hard time dealing with her husbands comments constantly. But really wants to quit. His constant comments aggrivate her and then she just wants a cigarette.  What can she say to him "nicely" to get him to back off? And then once your mom gives you her 2 cents...use her advice on her. I know that is tricky but sometimes thats what you have to do to get a point across to some people. I hope this helps.

Answer 10

a thyroid condition. uh huh lol