I am getting a divorce in NE. I have questions. Please help.?

Question

My husband and I have agreed to get a divorce. He has been living in Washington since October of 2007 but I believe he is a legal resident of Oregon. I live in Nebraska where we were married and lived for 10 years. We can not afford a lawyer and don't believe we need one. We have agreed on everything and we own nothing. I do not need to protect myself from him, we are still very good friends, and visa versa.

We do however have a child together. My question is, does he have to show up to a hearing? We can not afford a plane ticket nor can he get time off work plus I do not see why it is necessary. Secondly, how is having a child together going to affect the divorce? We have agreed on joint custody but all the papers I have been filling out make me choose myself or my husband as having sole custody.

Answer 1

I cant even begin to answer this, as i'm not a lawyer, If you cant afford a lawyer, thats ok, THE BEST and correct info you will get is not here on yahoo, you need to go down to your local probate court and talk to the clerk of courts, ITS FREE, they dont charge for that, and if you qualify, and even need representation, they'll provide that free as well. So go to the court and get the correct answers from your own town, city and state. good luck,  

Answer 2

First I am deeply sorry that you are getting a divorce. It must be a very difficult time for you and with a good faith you will prevail from this. You have a child together so that has to be discussed by a Judge in Court.

Divorce is not cheap, but when it's uncontested that makes things much easier and the onoy condtions would be the welfare of the child and of course child support and health insurance for the child.

In Georgia if you divorce the husband pyas so much child support and must keep insurance on the child. It can get costly, but let's face the facts..the child needs care too and the husband has to pay no ifs ands or butts about it.

There is no such thing as a cheap divorce, but there is one way to divorce less expensive through your local probate office.  Superior clerk of court should have the forms for divorce. You fill it out and sign it and your husband signs it and you return it back to the court with a filing fee of around $80.00 and then a court date is set by the Judge and you both must be present. I'm not all sure if a child is involved that you can go this route, but it doesn't hurt to ask and if all goes well you pay court cost the Judge and presto...it's a done deal.

Answer 3

You will need to file to divorce in the county where you got married. The county clerks office will provide you the paper work. You and your ex will need to prepare a custody agreement and responsibilities for each to agree on. Insurance, support, visitation etc.

You will save about $1500.00 by not using a lawyer, but it will take about three times longer to go thru the courts.

Also you both will need to be present when it goes to court.

Answer 4

YOU NEED TO GET A DIVORE LAWYER IT WILL REALLY HELP AND I THINK YOU SHOULD GO WITH SOLE CUSTODY SO THT YOUR CHILD WOULDNT HAVE TO FLY ALL THE TIME AND THT WOULD BE EXPENSIVE! HOPE I HELPED:)

Answer 5

hope its good

Answer 6

Because of the child, the court has to be involved in case one parent ever decides to disappear with the child.

If the child lives with you, put yourself down as the sole parent

(where the child will go to school makes that parent the guardian)

joint custody only is that the parents agree to discuss everything together, but the child still lives with one parent primarily

Answer 7

I think you can get the forms you need at the local library.  If he doesnt have the money/time to travel for the proceedings then he must not be pursuing a relationship with his child either?  (how old is your child?)

I think if you file there in your state...they will notify him of the date.  If he doesnt show up then everything you put in the divorce stands (which is everything you both agreed on anyway right?!)

The courts will probably award you sole custody if he no shows.  

Why do you want joint custody? Is he paying child support?  Are you going to pay for your child to go to oregon?  

Things will change if and when another woman gets involved trust me! lol

I suggest you go for one of those free consultations that lawyers offer at first for free.  

There is no reason you cant have an amiable easy less expensive divorce since you both are able to get along and make these decisions. But laws change all the time and vary so much from state to state, why not take advantage of a free consultation!