I am getting married September 12th and am having problems choosing my flower girl and ring bearer.

Question

I have a niece and a nephew from one sister, 5 nephews from another sister, and a niece and nephew from another sister. I am having a very difficult time choosing a flower girl and a ring bearer for my wedding. I am afraid if I choose one of them my other sisters will be jealous or upset. I would like to choose my sisters kids that I am closest with as she will be my MOH. What would be a proper way to choose??? Thank you for any suggestions.

Answer 1

jus do your favorite dont worry abouts others opinions. theyll understand

Answer 2

I'm sorry to say but you really shouldn't have any. It will only cause problems. Not to mention that ring bearers and flower girls always act up in some way and distract from the ceremony somehow. You want people to be anticipating your arrival walking down the aisle, not laughing and giggling at the flower girl ahead of you. My friend had an 11 year old flower girl thinking she would be too old to cause a scene and even that didn't work.  

Answer 3

Yes , it would be appropo to choose the daughter of the MOH.

As for the boy, if you are close to the one then him, but if no so much. Use a boy from other sister to balance.

Answer 4

Honestly, in your situation, I would skip having a flower girl and ring bearer. We didn't have them, just four attendants each, and it was fine.

Answer 5

Don't have a flower girl and ring bearer!  It's really not necessary.  I wish I would have not had them at my wedding.  I had and adult only reception and there was no need for them.  You end up getting a million pics of the kids and not to be rude but it's your day!  My flower girl was my MOH's daughter and everyone else ended up looking after the little girl.  

Answer 6

You should choose the children that are the best behaved regardless of which sister is closest.  

Answer 7

You don't have to have a flower girl and ring bearer at all. If you HAVE to choose, I'd choose the most well behaved of the crew. the last thing you need are children running amuck during your ceremony and reception...

Good luck!

Answer 8

If your sister is the maid of honour , she already has enough to worry about , without the added stress of getting her kids prepped for the big day , but talk to her and she how she feels about it , you don't want your right hand woman to have bad feeling towards you!  How ever , if hers kids ages are a worry to you , go for older (yet still in the age range) kids.  Or , draw names so that way it is completely fair.  

Also , if your wedding is very traditional and formal , a lot of princesses and royal brides have had several flower girls and ring bearers.  they scatter petals , and situate the brides train , plus they all look so cute together!  So if your wedding is grand enough , and you really cant pick , go for it

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Answer 9

I had to choose my maid of honor and the best advice I got was "There's no rule saying you can't have both." I had two maid of honor for my wedding and it was fabulous. You might consider ask them all (or none, there's no rule) to be in your wedding. A whole lot of babies would be cute in the pictures but of course that's if you really really like kids. Also take in consideration that kids need a lot of attention and that day isn't a day to be tending to kids. I did not have kids in my wedding.

Answer 10

Choose the oldest 2 and say that the others may get a chance at somebody else's wedding