I am getting married in a month and I have feelings for another man what do I do? ?

Question

I am getting married in a month and I have feelings for another man what do I do? ?

Answer 1

don't get married

Answer 2

If you truly love this man... then it is a phase and you need to separate yourself from the other. If you truly have feelings for this other man then you need to suck up the expenses and time that you have spent on the wedding and find a way to call it off.   Make a decision quickly.

Answer 3

DUH are you RETARDED or something?

Obviously don't get married.

Answer 4

If you truly want to be married to the man you are going to marry, then go for it.

Feelings for other people will ALWAYS come up. You are not the only one who feels this way!  

You're probably freaking out thinking "OMG this is the last man I'll ever be with!"  It's totally normal.

Just take a deep breath, and sketch things out. Take some time to think about it and see if these feelings for this other man are just emotions, or if it's true love. Time will tell :)

Answer 5

Having feelings for someone and loving someone is TWO different things. You need love for a marriage. Do your best to love the person your heart admires most.

Here's a mind trick to finding that right person... which guy would you be willing to forgive the most if he hurt you? That's the one you marry. Don't think about money, s*x, or anything else... just think about the person. Now which one would you be most willing to forgive if they hurt you???

Answer 6

Sometimes you may feel like you have feelings only because you know in a month you will be tied down in your marriage.  Those feelings for this other man may not be real.  Maybe you should postpone the wedding, sort out your feelings, and go from there.

Answer 7

just tell him honestly that you dont like him

Answer 8

Feelings as in a little crush or feelings as in being in love?  I'm not going to tell you not to get married, but I would postponed it until you are sure what it is you want to do.  No one can tell you which way to go.  Only you can.  Good luck in your decision.

Answer 9

have a threesome

Answer 10

Looks like your marriage is off to a bad start before it really starts.   It will not get any better.   Cancel the wedding.....

Answer 11

You are not ready for marriage. When you are ready for marriage it feels as natural as breathing.

Answer 12

If you have feelings for someone else, you shouldn't get married.

Answer 13

Who has the most $$?

Answer 14

enjoy life as it comes with open hands anf open eyes with working brains

Answer 15

Tell your fiance that you are interested in someone else. That's pretty sad.. why did you accept the engagement in the first place?  

Answer 16

DO NOT GET MARRIED!  Why would you even be thinking about getting married to one guy when another gets your juices flowing.  You will break the hearts of two men, and if there happens to be a child, what then, who is the father becomes a question!

Answer 17

DON'T GET MARRIED!!!! You are already dishonering your financee!!!  

Answer 18

Get spayed.

That should solve your problem.

Answer 19

girl........i am seeing a married woman that i adore. her husband is a nice guy and it came to the point that we all talked about it. i see her when we can and her husband and i decided to make her happy and continue for me to see her, we been together since 2004. as a guy your situation may be different because for some reason, men have a hard time seeing there woman sexually with another guy. good luck

Answer 20

go with ur gut

Answer 21

Why are you getting married if you have feelings for someone else?  That's so unfair to your fiance, he deserves to have all of your heart - postpone the wedding until you get this sorted out.

Answer 22

Don't get married, if you feel strongly about another man. However, you may want to consider if your feelings is love or lust, regardless, you are not ready, as marriage is a committment.  You need to re-evaluate you feeling.

Answer 23

Call off the wedding NOW!  You will save a lot of people a lot of grief as well as money. Call it off NOW!!  Your fiance will be able to heal in time and you both will be able to move on and find the right person but if you're thinking about another man and you get married in a month, your fiance is NOT the one for you.  Call it off!

Answer 24

By all means possible, DO NOT get married!  Postpone the wedding until you can figure out who you want to be with and you have completely gotten over the other guy.  

Answer 25

It depends what kind of "feelings" your having for the other man...Maybe you are just having the proverbial "cold feet" or pre-wedding jitters.  I think it is normal to feel "attraction" to other people other than your significant other, just don't act on those feelings if you truly, genuinely love your soon  

to be spouse.  If you truly value the man that is soon to be your husband, then go ahead and get married.  Otherwise, if you are having second thoughts maybe because YOU are really not ready to commit to one person for the rest of your life, then hold off and seek counselling for yourself and maybe for him as well.  I hope that answers your question.

Answer 26

Isn't it obvious?

DON'T GET MARRIED!!!!!!!

Answer 27

DO NOT GET MARRIED!  It is not fair to your finacee/future husband if you are not committed to him 100%.  If you have feelings for another man you are not ready to get married.  It will be selfish of you if you go through with the wedding while having feelings for another man.  Your fiancee deserves a wife who will be 100% committed and 100% in love with ONLY him.

Answer 28

Grow up.  Stay single for awhile.  You are way to immature to be getting married.  Sort out your thoughts and later on down the road then maybe decide.  Marriage is something you do not take lightly.

Answer 29

you should bang him then see how you feel before you get married, also are you the bride or the groom?  

Answer 30

Don't get married... all it would do is end up in divorce... You shouldn't be thinking about anyone else, but your soon to be spouse... If you're thinking about someone else, or have feelings for someone else, then your marriage is bound to be more difficult because your whole heart isn't into it.

Answer 31

Please don't get married be honest with yourself and your fiance'.