I am getting married in a month?

Question

i still don't think i love him yet. what should i do

Answer 1

Simple enough. Don't do it,

It will be just as bad when you have to get a divorce. Wait until YOU feel is the right time for it.

Answer 2

If you don't love him now then he may not be the one for you. For Heaven's sake do not get married! Not fair to you and definitely not fair to him.

Answer 3

if you dont love him do you really want to spend the rest of your life with him?? why did you even say that you would marry him if you didnt love him??? you cant make yourself love anyone.  

Answer 4

I got married just a few short months ago and about a month before the wedding I experienced the same feelings. Now I can't say whether or not your insecurities are just cold feet or nerves but for me it was just my bodies way of telling me to slow down. I got really unsure of myself and my love for my future husband for awhile. I suggest taking some time to spend with him completely alone (at least 2 days) and keep an eye open for things you may not often notice. Things you can't stand about him, things you do love about him, things he does that make you smile so on and so forth.

If the things you can't stand are things that you could see yourself looking past then don't let it hold you back. If the things you love about him are few and far between perhaps you should express your worries to him.

Talking to him may be the best thing you can do. Who knows, maybe he is feeling a similar way?

Answer 5

If you don't love him then you shouldn't be getting married right now! Not saying that you guys should never get married. But wait till you know for sure. But remember there is nothing wrong with being nervous for getting married. If you have no fears then you probably aren't taking a marriage as serious as it is! But there is a big difference than pre wedding jitters and not loving someone!

Answer 6

WHAT???? ur getting married to someone you don't love? how come you said yes when he proposed if you dint love him ?????????

Answer 7

What?!?! omg, for the love of christ...

Listen, if you don't LOVE him, or you dont feel ready, or what ever, DONT DO IT! you dont want an unhappy marriege, or having to divorse when you turn 40. If you dont feel anything, dont do it, you will regret it.

Or at least give him sometime, spend a couple of weeks alone and take care of your feelings, and suspend the wedding.

Take care, and best of luck

Bella

Answer 8

If you are truly unsure of your feelings for him,  do not marry him... you would only be setting yourself up AND your "fiancee" would be so crushed if you married him and didn't love him... Why are you even CONSIDERING marrying a man you are unsure of anyway????  If you marry him and decide you don't love him,  it's very expensive to get out of a marriage... but it's not as expensive to get out of a WEDDING...  Never marry anyone you are not absolutely sure that you love...  

Answer 9

ummm ok If u don't love him don't do it ur just gona get a divorce after wards or when ur older regret it. If u don't know if u love him its probably because u don't  or something is wrong.

Answer 10

Yet??!!! I don't understand - didn't you love him when you agreed to marry?  If you don't love him, then please do yourselves both a favor and call off the wedding!  It is cheaper than a divorce.  

Answer 11

You should not marry him. If you don't really love him. It will only end badly. Why not take some time and make sure. Even if you cancel the  wedding. good luck

Answer 12

Don't do it!!!!

Answer 13

you should figure out the answer to that question all by yourself before you make any further commitment or plans.

Answer 14

Tell him you need time if you don't love the man he is not worth spending (or wasting) the rest of your life with.....

Answer 15

Don't mary someone you don't love. It will end up costing you much more in the future. If you are not in love with him, you probably never will. Wait until you are sure that you love him before you marry him.

Answer 16

It could be sevral things here.

1. You dont love him and you should NOT do ti.

2. You love him, but you have cold feet, and with the planning and all your just stressed.

3. You love him, but you dont feel it yet

If I were you, I'd talk to him, throw away all the planning and blah blah blah, and go out to dinner in a quiet restraunt and ask him the same question, do you love me, and just talk. Make sure you are making the right choice. It's expensive to do the wedding and also expensive to get a divorce, think about it first... but also involve him in this!

Good Luck

If you need someone to talk to, e-mail me.

~yoyo

Answer 17

Why did you say yes then?