I am getting stationed in germany, is there any way i can take my girlfriend and kid without getting married?

Question

we were married before got a divorce, dont want to get remarried but i want her and my kid around

Answer 1

You will have to pay for your girlfriends plane ticket out of your own pocket. You can choose to live off post and live in a house on the economy in Germany. The military will give money based on your rank for housing outside post. You will receive some money for you and your child each month but not your girlfriend (called BAS). Once you get there you can talk with finance about your special circumstance but it may take a while. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I'm a spouse stationed in Germany and I know they won't let you stay on-post with your girlfriend.  Living on-post is overrated anyway, I wish I lived off.  But I know some people can get around this, they bring family members with them to work as nannies for their kids.  I know they are get priviledges like going to the commissary, and they get an installation pass.  I don't know if you are Army or Air Force, I'm on an Army post and I know it's easier for the people who live off post to have a nanny, they frown upon it in government housing because they want you to use the CDC or the FCC providers who take care of kids out of their government quarters.  Everything the other guy stationed in Germany told you is right, but I do know some people who get around it.  Maybe you could bring your girlfriend over as your nanny, if you are a single parent in the military you need someone to watch your kid.  You should probably talk to the travel people at your current post, if they don't know they should be able to direct you to someone who does.

Okay, I just saw that your id says armyguy.  As far as your other details, in the military community I live in, if you are single with no kids and below a certain rank you have to stay in the barracks.  I think once you get to E-5 you can move into a place on the economy.  You probably can't have an on-post apartment if you are by yourself, unless it is the SGT's Quarters that some posts have.

Answer 3

Hey, I'm stationed at Ramstein Air Base, Germany right now and I know everything for your situation. Since your ex-wife is not considered a dependent, you are going to have to pay for everything for her to come over here. But here's the problem... Germany is part of the European Union and they have a rule. People can stay in the European Union, but for no longer than 90 days on a tourist passport. If they want to come back into the country after 90 days, they must be out of the country for six months. Since your ex-wife will not be able to get Command Sponsored over here, she will have to use her tourist passport. She can apply for a visa which will guarantee her stay here for a year, but you will have to go through that long and tiring process and get it re-newed whenever it expires. Since you have custody of your child, he/she can get Command Sponsored and will be able to stay with you in Germany. So, really, the only problem will exist with getting your ex-wife over here and having her stay. I know, it sucks, but that's the way it is.

As far as housing goes, you should be able to get whatever you want. On-base housing with BAH, off-base housing... it's up to you. Your kid should be able to live with you as well.

The best thing you can do is talk to your First Sergeant and ask them to get more information for you. They should be able to help you out. Don't stress over it too much, it's their job to find out these kinds of things for you. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes but you will have to pay for it out of your own pocket. For her anyway. You may be able to get the child over there for free.

Answer 5

You will have to pay for her trip no matter what. If the child is yours you might get travel priveleges for that child. You have to check with your 1st Sgt. You must have proof that this is your child. If you do take your girlfriend, you have to get the approval of your 1st Sgt and CO to move off post. Good Luck with this.

Answer 6

I am an ex-army BRAT, & Dad took us, but he and Mom were married. I think it is up to you to pay it out of your own cash. It is a great expirience for kids, So it would be worth every dime spent.... I believe housing is for families... So you would be in the G.I. barracks.