I am going crazy with kids?

Question

How do you handle stress of a 4 and 2 year old fighting constant they egg each other on ALL THE TIME ... I am so stressed I feel my blood boiling :-(... I am screaming at them all the time to stop. Nobody understands who I tell... they just say kids fight deal with it...

Answer 1

children can be very hard and try our patients all the time. I have a 10 year old and a 7 year old. my 7 year old is autistic, and they fight all the time. at 4 and 2 it can be very hard. try sitting with them and playing games with them, draw. something really fun is take shaving cream put it on your kitchen table put a few drops of food coloring in it and let them play. its a fun way to clean the table and they will have a blast. if you have tile floor you can clean your floors this way too:) sometimes the fighting is due to boredom, (thats usually why my 2 fight) just try to find fun activities that both can enjoy together.  



and for you, if there is a nap time take that time to take a nice bubble bath, listen to music, lite candles. you can also do music/dance time with them. try different styles and speeds of music for them to dance to. this is fun and tires them out.

Answer 2

You're not going crazy. Kids might tug and pull but if they are uncontrolable put them in time out. Let them learn to act right or no snacks or treats.Or no fun activities. If you have someone to watch your children then treat yourself to a nice spa. It will relieve stress. Take it easy!

Answer 3

honestly keep them apart !!! do not let them sit together or even play together until they can act human and stop fighting and bossing each other around.no tv ,or cartoons or movies or anything till they are both nice to each other.my 2 younger granddaughters are like this and it is because they are together all the time,sometimes they need to be away from each other.if they dont want to listen then stand them in seperate corners of different rooms for like 5 or 6 minutes or make them take a nap.cut down on the sugar ,no pop and try healthy snacks not junk that may help too.good luck.

Answer 4

well its obvious that they have been getting away with this behavior for a while. OMG egging one another that's awful. Punish them and keep them apart for a while to give yourself a break. Get two little rugs put them in separate areas and give them each a little bucket or storage tub have then go through their toys and fill it with a few of their favorites. Then have them go to their own rugs to play and tell them they have to stay on their rugs. They need structure throughout their day. Come up with little things they can do alone and with you as a group. They are bored. Plus when they misbehave discipline them don't let it get to the point of where they are throwing eggs.

Answer 5

spank them paddle them put them in time out, starve them, thats what my parents did and im fine and raised good.

Answer 6

Kid's fight, deal with it.  If you didn't want to "suffer" the pains of "sibling rivalry" you should have stuck with only ONE child.

Answer 7

Oh wow. If I didn't know better, I would have thought that I posted this. LOL. I have a 4 y/o son and a 2 y/o daughter. They are always fighting too. I try to calm them down by separating them to doing different activities. My son has a spongebob puzzle that he loves to do and my daughter is the avid colorer. It gives me at least an hour of peace. You can also encourage them to play separately during the day. Another thing I do to get them to stop fighting is making them hug. They get so tickled at HAVING to hug that they forget what they were fighting about.

Good Luck.

Answer 8

I'm a mum of 2 boys aged 9 and 10 years. I've been through this. Perhaps it's a phase they are going through at this age, both wanting to assert their personalities. Unfortunately, as mums, all we can do is constantly talk and remind them to be nice to each other.

If it all gets too much for you, get someone to help you baby-sit them for a while and you go on and take a break.

Once they are older, enrol them in tae kwon do lessons or any martial arts lessons. It helps with discipline, respect etc.. I enrolled my 2 boys since they were 7 years and I think it helps.

Answer 9

well hun, it's true you do just got to deal with it.  both of your children are at separates stages, of development.  What you should do is have separate activities for them to do.  Pain in the butt to be running in a bazillion directions, but forcing a four year old to play with a 2 year old is just as frustrating to her.  and then having the 2 year old play catch up to the four year old?  makes no sense.

Screaming at them is obviously not working.  divide and conker!  screaming at your child only teaches them a pathway to anger.  Step on that road, and it's d**n hard to get a two year old to stop screamin back.  they are lil pains as it is.  

I have five kids, they all have their own lil space, their own interests.  sure they play with each other.  But in no way are they stuck with each other.  Its up to you to find something constructive for them to get into.  something to keep them busy and interested in.

Answer 10

When my brother and I used to fight, my Mom used to lock us up in two different rooms. But that was when we were a little older than your kids.

Have you tried taking away their playtime and toys when they fight? And telling them they will have it back if they don't fight for two hours? If they still fight, take away more of their favorite items. And so on.

Also you can keep chocolates or something at home and reward them when they don't fight.

Also, Mom used to make us say sorry to each other when we fought.

Answer 11

Kids Fight Deal With It