I am going to be a mom soon...and I'm terrified. WHAT DO I DO?

Question

I'm due in august. I'm terrified of becoming a mother. Can I have some advice?

Answer 1

You will be fine!  It's challenging but have you heard of maternal instinct?  That's something we are born with that enables to take care of our children to the best of our ability.

Answer 2

The first diaper I ever changed was at the hospital with my daughter.  Most of your fears go away the first time you see your child.  However mine were all replaced with the thoughts of first boyfriends, first day of school, learning to drive... etc.

Answer 3

I was a mental wreck before the birth of my son even though we were on IVF for two years to get him.  I had never been maternal and had very little experience with children.  For me I was amazed at how naturally it did come.  With common sense you really can't go wrong.  Common sense will keep you from ever harming your child and all the rest can be changed altered or fixed.  Remember most theories today will be different in two years time so even things which are not common practice today are unlikely to hurt your baby.  Make sure you have support.  Ask questions and find out as much as you can and discard what information you don't like.  And take time for yourself.  The more tired you are the harder any stress is to deal with.  Most of all enjoy it it really is the greatest time of your life and the good will always outweigh the bad.  Good luck

Answer 4

I was scared at first, and was bad at the hospital with my son.  I wanted to have my mom help me.  I was scared to take the baby home.  I know my husband was afraid that I was gonna have issues with him on my own.

I did well my mother was very helpful and i have my Grandmother on speed dial also to help out.  

Just do what feels natural, also remeber some women take time to connect with their babies, I Was in the hospital for an week with my son and didnt connect right away, I did have the mother bond I knew when he was in the nursery and cried.  But the relization that he was my baby that was in my tummy just a while before didnt set in til I was at home with him.

I know a while ago one new mother posted an question about how she had her baby and was depressed about how she missed the baby inside her, I know I was there for an while, and until I got preg this second time (I am 18 weeks) I went off and on missing the baby kicking and growing.   You will and can get past it as long as you remind your self the baby is here and you get to teach that child everything you wish you knew as an child and teen.  

Good luck.

Answer 5

Everything comes more natural than you think. Every baby is different and from the first night you spend with your bub you will know it better than anyone else. Get some rest and get out of the house and do some things that you wont be able to do  soon. You will be fine, and you will soon realise how right your mom was about everything!!

Answer 6

dont be terrified no need. everything will be fine.i had my daughter last yr of aug and i was so scared too. but its not as hard as everyone makes.you will be fine dont worry

Answer 7

Even if your not the most maternal person it will still come so naturally. i had my first at sixteen and i thought what the f*** am i Going do but as soon as i had her everything just came.

midwives are great as long as you don't take every thing they say to heart.

as they get older and you get to no them it becomes so  much easier and easier

the first few weeks are the hardest and then it just get easier and easier.

best tip i got : put together as playlist or your favourites songs and play them non stop (through speakers) but especially as your going to sleep cause when the baby's born it settles and clams them like magic

great for screaming bubs in the car

Answer 8

i was 16 when i had my first and i looked at my son and thought omg what do i do id never changed a nappy in my life but it all came naturally and the midwives in the hospital were great and answered every silly question i asked you will be fine and that motherly instinct will soon kick in when you see your gorgouse baby.

sam 11+5 with baby num3