I am going to his parents today but i am worried?

Question

before my daughter was born her dad died i have arranged to take her to see his parents and his 2 sisters and his brother i am so worried about going today is this normal i am also worried about having a argument as me and them don't get on that well and i even made my self be sick this morning and i don't want a fight as i am 2 months pregnant is this a normal feeling to feel like before i go please try and help me !!!!!

i am going today i am worried and so is my new husband should i bring him an leave him in the car or just leave him at home if you can help please answer but if you cant answer than don't please as i am upset and frustrated enough =)

Answer 1

You don't say why you're worried, are these nasty people you're going to see?

If so, why? What did they do or say?

You realise that you don't need to stay for more than an hour if you don't want to.

I do think that it might be a bit overwhelming for you to see them all at once. Why don't you suggest that next time you visit just the grandparents, and make an arrangement to visit just the brother another time, and then just the sister another time.

Bring your new husband in to meet them because they will want to meet the man who is rearing their grandchild. If you don't bring him in, they will think that you are hiding something.  

Answer 2

Bring in your husband they should see who is fathering their grandchild now. They deserve that. Don't be so worried doing things like this can make you get worried or be nervous its a totally normal feeling. I hope all goes well for you and everything works out.

Maybe the parents have changed since before when you've seen them. Just keep positive and only let positive energy be around you.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think it is about time your daughter met her father's family especially her grandparents.  If something ever happened to you, she will now know her father's family and maybe she can turn to them for help.

Don't go with a negative attitude.  A smile is worth more than gold.  So when you arrive at you in law please smile and do not frown.

Leave your new husband at home.   If they are naturally unhappy people, they will be upset if you brought him and also if you don't bring him.  I would not put him through this.

This visit is for your daughter to met her father's family and nothing more.  It is not a family reunion nd they do not need to know what your new husband is like.  I would definitely not let him set in the car and wait on you.

Good luck!  

Answer 4

i honestly think it would be better if you didnt bring your new husband. talk about awkward lol. i dont think you should be as nervous as you are. they just want to see their family no big. and even though you dont get along too well, its not like they are going to treat you like c**p in front of your own kids. just try to have a good time lol