I am going to marry soon. i was having a boy friend before that.?

Question

I am thinking i should tell my husband about him. I also had s*x with my boyfriend several times. I think it would be better to me to tell him first as before other person tells him. I am confused what to do. Is there will be any problem on telling him a truth or it will affect my married life? Ofen he askes these question on phone. but i dosent reply for it.

Answer 1

What's wrong with playing the field a little before settling down?  Before I met my fiance, I had one other serious boyfriend, a casual fling, and a one-night stand with some random dude- I think it's important to have a little life experience before getting married, or else you might end up regretting not getting a chance to experience other guys.  I don't see why your fiance wouldn't expect for you to have had another boyfriend prior to him, unless he thinks you're a virgin or it's against your religion or something.  At any rate, I don't think it's any of his business what you did before you met him.  I'm sure he probably had his fair share of girlfriends before meeting you.  Just leave it in the past if you think he's going to make a big deal out of it.

Answer 2

If you are saying you had a boyfriend before you're relationship with your current guy it shouldn't matter, if  you're saying you cheated on your man several times then you shouldn't be getting married.  Either way tell him the truth, its always better to hear it from you then someone else.

Answer 3

u r cheating ur hubby,i'll say u dont marry anyone

Answer 4

The past is in the past, if you think the old BF will

immaturely say something to him, then I guess you

should say something.  He seems very childish!

Future hubby should understand about past

relationships though!  Of course if he is a virgin???

Answer 5

Look dear, it's the Indian culture, to keep quiet and not tell the truth, keep on lying and keeping up the facade. ********. TELL HIM, be honest. See: Interesting it is: Most westerners would say tell him, most Indians would advise you to keep it quiet. What kind of culture is that? Lying, doing things behind people''s backs? Where's the fricken honesty there?

Why can't Indian deal with reality? man, I just don't understand these people.....

Answer 6

hi,

You are going to spend your life with your husband,this is time to tell him truth.

If he really love you and understand you properly,he can understand your feeling and respect you.

It's better to have the news from you other then your ex-boyfriendd,i thing if he got any information regarding your relationship from you ex-boyfrien then he may upset 1000 time more,and it can effect on your post marital life.

So,be confident on your love and tell him the truth....

Answer 7

If your husband to be doesn't know about your dating history I assume that this is an arranged marriage where you haven't known each other for a long time. It is still a good idea in a case like that to be open and honest. Lying is generally more hurtful than anything you could have done.

Answer 8

i guess it all depends on what your trying to say if you are saying that you had a boy friend before your fiance then it should not be a problem but if you were cheating on him then you have a problem cause sweety if that is the case good luck cause i doubt your going to marry him

Answer 9

thats bit tricky.

You are right it would be better for you to tell him before marriage. But you must be ready, bcoz it might affect your marriage itself. You may never know what is in his mind, he may decide to leave you, but it is better you tell him before he find out on his own. Tell him that it was your past and it has gone, he might also have a thing or two to share. So dont worry, but just go slow.

Answer 10

Honesty is always the best policy in any relationship. Did you cheat on your BF (who's your soon to be husband)? If so, I think it's best to tell him. Once you're committed to someone (married), the cheating stops or can mean a divorce. Take the vows seriously!

Answer 11

If your fiance thinks you're a virgin & you're not, that might cause some problems.

Better tell him now, but be prepared for his reaction & the outcome.  You should have told him l-o-n-g before now.

Answer 12

please dont tell him he will never know just dont even cheat while you married cause now you have made a committed to him so i hope you will like keep your secert cause you did you in the field but i think if you tell him the wedding problem be off dont tell him that were the past your husband is your future cause why lose something good that you have

Answer 13

I would tell him about the boyfriend and that it was serious.  Wouldn't go into detail about activities - just imply.

Answer 14

WHY WOULD YOU TELL HIM? and why would he care about what you did...after all you didn't know him..is not a big deal...unless he si not very open minded...ask him if he had slept with other women before you....

Answer 15

You need to come clean, most definitely. That's just not cool to cheat on someone and then go ahead and marry them without them knowing exactly what they're getting themselves into.

Edit: Wait, do you mean WHILE dating your fiance or beforehand? If it was before hand I don't see the harm in it and it shouldn't affect anything.

Answer 16

you are going to tell him one day..why dont that day be today...

Answer 17

Don't tell anything. He shouldn't be concerned with your past. He should only be concerned about the present. Also, what if he has had previous relationships?