I am having a bad relationship with my brother?

Question

I am 21 years old and my only brother is 23. About 3 years ago, he met a girl while at college and ever since then, things have been going down hill between him and my family. He has slowly distanced himself from us. His girlfriend has never really tried to encourage a good relationship between him and my family and although I have tried, over the past few months, he has refused to keep in contact with us. About a month ago they decided to get married. I was never invited to the wedding. I could clearly see that she is having a negative effect on his life and I don't want to see him get hurt. He refuses to discuss any real problems or the things he had done, yet he wants to continue our relationship like nothing ever happened. We use to be so close, but now it seems like he wants nothing to do with me. I don’t mean to tell the world all of my problems. I was just hoping I could get some advice.

Answer 1

Wait it out.  If she's bad for him, she'll probably be gone eventually, as he's young.  It happened with my brother.  He and his terrible wife got divorced after 10 years.  We became close again, then best friends.  Don't push him, just be there for him when it falls apart and have faith.  My brother died two weeks ago, and I'm so glad I kept quiet and forgave him.  If you fight about it and criticize his wife now, you'll just push him away even more.  Just cherish any little moment you get.  It'll get better, I bet.  

Answer 2

Talk to your brother one on one, without the wife. Let him know that you were hurt by his actions, especially since you two were so close at one time. Blood is supposed to be thicker than water, remind him of it. Tell him there should still be room for his new bride as well as family. It's still new to him, that newness will wear off sooner or later and he'll remember the closeness you guys once shared. Be Encourage!

Answer 3

here is your problem. your family started to reject his girlfriend, he took offense.

now that they are married your family wants things to go back to the way they were.. they will not and they shouldn't. he is a married man with a family of his own now and they should take president over your family.

if you had not been so negative in the first place you would not be where you are now.. my advice, if he is willing to give you an olive branch..... TAKE IT AND STOP COMPLAINING OR YOU WILL ALIENATE HIM FOREVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!