I am having a miscarriage?

Question

It was confirmed yesterday that my babys heart had stopped and the miscarriage had started. I was bleeding lightly and began to pass stringy like blood covered stuff (don't know what else to call it but stuff).

This carried on and i began having really bad pains and then this tissue (that looked like mini livers) started to come out but they were no bigger than a 10 pence pieced. About half an hour ago i passed a massive big lump of stuff about the size of an orange and it was bloody like a massive clot. I wanted to see my baby so i tried to open it (i know its discgusting sorry) but it wouldn't it just came apart. Was this the sac my baby was in or was this the afterbirth? If it is the afterbirth does this mean i lost my baby already? What will my baby look like/ be inside of when it comes out. I know this is a horrible question but i really want to know as the midwifes do not explain this much information and for anybody that has had a miscarriage i know that you know how i feel about wanting to see my baby .

Answer 1

I have had 4 miscarriages and i completly understand what you feel. i had pretty much the same thing with my  1st and 2nd and i ended up having to have a d&c cause my body didnt get rid of everything with my second. it was pretty terrifying. i thought i was dying because i didnt know i misscarried. i also trued to look at mine and i couldnt see anything. i was to afraid to tear the baby apart so i only messed with it for a few seconds. i am deeply sorry for your loss. i was about 3-4 months with mine. im sorry and i hope you can learn to go on. i know its hard i still think about my first one the longest one all the time and its been 3 years.  all the others i was only a month or so so it didnt really hit me as bad as the first.

SORRY!!

Answer 2

He will just be a small baby and its fine to see him / her  its your baby he has lived in you a you deserved to see him.

Answer 3

I'm deeply sorry about your loss.

Maybe you shud ask your doctor hun.

Answer 4

I think it would be a bad idea to see your baby personally. But if it helps you to move on then its your decision.

I have had a miscarriage but I chose to have a D&C because I couldnt bare seeing it. But as I said, people cope with loss in different ways - some find it helps to see people they have lost and some don't.

My thoughts are with you.

Answer 5

You are probably going to pass a number of very large clots like that. Even very early miscarriages involve clots because the lining of the womb has built up and needs to come out, and it tends to do so in clots. I recently had a D&C and even though that apparently empties the womb entirely, I still passed a number of large clots as the lining comes out. Seeing as you are quite far along and are doing it naturally, there is a lot that needs to come out and much of it is going to look pretty scary.

If the pain or the bleeding gets seriously bad then please seek medical attention.

You are being very brave doing this by yourself.

Answer 6

I have no idea what to say to you, but my heart goes out to you. I'm feeling your pain honey, and wish I could make you feel better. I think your doctor or midwife would be able to put you right, about what you've seen etc and which part coming away from you, was your baby. I'm not much help to you, but just wanted you to know I'm thinking of you xxxxxxxxx

Answer 7

Ugh God i have no business answering this question cause i haven't got a clue. sorry to hear that tho  

Answer 8

It kind of depends on how far along you are. It may really look like nothing much if you're only 6-8 weeks along or so. At that point the baby is so small that it's hard to point out body parts and things like that. I'm very sorry for your loss. I know this must be very difficult to go through.

Answer 9

note sure. but im sorry for your loss. x

Answer 10

sorry honey i really am! sounds like you may have passed the baby already! there is nothing wrong with you wanting to see him/she a baby after all that you helped create your a brave lady to write on here so no doubt you will mend quite soon being able to talk really does help the healing sorry cant help more all the best and good luck for the future  

Answer 11

I think its best you dont look chick, I know your not making this up because all the deatils are correct. I just want to say Im really sorry for your loss and I hope you have better luck in the future. x*x

Answer 12

You should be under medical supervision, and also be getting referrals to counselling. Seriously. From your mention of a ten pence piece, you must be in the UK. Get to your hospital !!

Answer 13

If the growth stopped between 10 and 11 weeks then you wouldn't see much of anything.  Your body would probably reabsorb it and you wouldn't even see it.  take care of yourself.  Find a counselor.  

Answer 14

I don't know much on the subject, but I'm feeling your pain through your question but can't possibly imagine what you must be going through. I am so so sorry for your loss, I hope someone on here can tell you what you want to know. My generic answer, although not much help, would be to talk to your medical professional about it and describe this because they will know.

Answer 15

oh I am so sorry you had to do that alone.

I feel for you, I had to do it on my own when I was 20 wks along.

How many weeks were you? Because depending on the age, chances are you wouldn't see a ''baby''. I have a feeling it was the placenta and all those clots were your baby being passed.

You lost a human, allow yourself to feel the hurt and pain bc it makes grieving easier.

Once again, I'm sorry--it's not disgusting, it's life and I was there once in your shoes.

Answer 16

How far along were you? It's important to know.

My grandmother had a miscarriage at 3 months and a half because of some medication. She told me that the baby came out insite the placenta, surrounded by it. I don't know what it looked like cause she didn't tell me. However, that thing that fell appart when you touched it was probably not the baby, but just coagulated blod or membrans

Answer 17

FIRST OF ALL I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU I HAVE GONE WITH TWO MISCARRIAGES AND THE FIRST ONE I WAS FIVE MONTHS I HAD MY BABY NORMAL HIS HEART HAS STOPPED TO AND TRUST ME I SAW HIM AND I HAD ANOTHER ONE THAT I WAS ABOUT 5 WEEKS BUT THEY DID A CLEAN UP ON ME I DIDNT GET TO SEE IT BUT MY SISTER WENT TROUGH SOMETHING LIKE YOU MY SISTER DIDNT KNOW SHE WAS PREGO SHE WAS ABOUT 6 WKS AND SHE HAD A PAIN IN HER STOMACH AND WENT TO THE RESTROOM AND THIS BIG BALL OF BLOOD CAME OUT AND SHE DIDNT SEE THAT NORMAL SO WE GOT IT AND TOOK IT TO THE EMERGENCY ROOM THEY TOLD HER SHE HAD JUST MISCARRIED AND THAT IN FACT WAS HER BABY THEY DID TELL HER IT WAS HER BABY SAC AM PRETTY SURE IT WAS YOUR BABY SAC ......SORRY TO HEAR WHAT HAPPEN TO I TOTTALLY FEEL YOU I HAVE GONE THROUGH WITH THAT TWICE BUT THANK GOD AM PREGO AGAIN AND EVRYTHING IS GOIN SUPPER