I am having a problem with a member of my church. ?

Question

This man has helped our family out a lot when we were going through hard times and I have helped him with any kind of work at church, like fundrasiers, mowing the lawn, making the bulletin,.etc. Anyway it has been 3 years and I am 15 now and he is 68. But he's a kind of man who constantly critizes people all the time for everything. I just can't take this anymore, I tried to talk to him nicely and even cursed him off but he is too d**n stubborn like if you do one thing wrong, he like says bunch of things to you that really kind of gets you down. I really tried to ignore him but I can't take it anymore and I can't leave the church or not see him anymore. I just need something really harsh to say to him to stop his horrible habit of making people feel bad whenever they make a mistake. Any ideas? Please, don't say like one sentence.

Answer 1

That sounds like a tough situation.  I would take the matter to my pastor if I were you.  You should not have to handle that tough of a situation with such a stubborn adult at 15.  It sounds to me like this is a situation best dealt with by church staff.  Hope this helps!  

Answer 2

I have no idea as to which church you attend but the Bible is always the place to go when we are looking for a way to deal with a problem or need advise.

At your age, your Pastor or a Deacon or your SS teacher are the people that should be able to help you with this problem.

One of my favorite scriptures on the subject of speech and attitude comes from Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.  30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

Another scripture is, James 4:11 Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge. 12 There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?

Do talk to your Pastor about this situation.

Answer 3

Tell the guy to quit complaining every time he says something.  Also, tell him he is repeating himself like....you already said that, several times.  He should get the message*

Answer 4

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, `Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,' when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye. - Luke 6:41-42 Direct him here

Answer 5

People are not perfect and he should know that..hm...don't know what you could say to him, this is pretty hard. Well just try to ignore him, even if you said you tried but just try harder...There is no perfect church and well, I go to church because of God not people so um.. yeah..don't know...