I am having girlfriend problems and i can't seem to resolve the issue.?

Question

I have this wonderful, beautiful girlfriend who has a problem with drinking and partying. She stays out late with her friends and drinks the night away as if she was in college. I went through that stage as well, but am long over it and focused on my career. Lately, i have just been thinking about breaking up with her due to her childish behavior. I have tried endlessly to help her kick the bad habit convincing myself that she'll grow out of it. Her behavior dosen't seem to get any better. What should I do?

Answer 1

Get someone without the problem. She doesn't sound that wonderful.

Answer 2

Drinking and partying is a personal issue,,you can't make someone stop,  they have to want to do it themselves.  If you are concentrating on other issues such as your career, it seem that you and your GF are at a different junture in your lives.  You have grown up, she hasn't.  So the writing is on the wall.  If you force her to change you will never live it down.  Break up and find someone who is as mature as you are.   good luck

Answer 3

Tell her you need to talk to her. Then tell her that you thing i he childish behavior must stop. Then  if she doesn't tell her that you would break up  with her for good. Trying to the good things help. Even if she's pretty or anything it  would be a promblem.

As long as your happy with her ok.

Answer 4

As a wise pimp once said, "If you try to change the tiger's stripes, the tiger will attack you."

It's pretty obvious that any attempt on your part to change her will be met with resistance.  With so many women out there....why settle for this one?

Answer 5

She has to want to change and she doesn't want to.  Break up with her and find a healthier relationship

Answer 6

Tell her that u have a problem with what she does and if your both serious about your relations ship then maybe she'll stop

Answer 7

Obviouse shes not ready for a commitment.

I think you should just end the relationship, and just try and find someone that is as focused on their career as you are. If she is really commited to you then she wouldn't do that kinda stuff, shes just taking advantage of you cause uhaven'tt broke up with her yet after endless times of trying to help her. :) sorry if I didn't help, its kinda hard to put into words whatI'mm trying to say.

Answer 8

tell her that you feel like there is a strain on the relationship, and that you will help her as long as she is willing to help yourself! just sit down and talk about everything- hopefully you will be able to resolve it all!

Answer 9

Tell her that if she doesn't pack up drinking its over. and if she wont give up alcohol for a relationship then its not worth it. hope i helped.

Answer 10

Hhhmmm...

It seems like you might have the problem. Sounds like you're overly jealous and possessive. Is she an alcoholic? Maybe you two are coming to a fork in the road and you both are growing differently. You want something more serious, she wants to stay young and enjoy her youth.

You guys are not the same people, you've both changed since you began dating.

You should probably dump her.

Date me instead ;-).

Good Luck!

Answer 11

She has to quit this on her own, and if she chooses to remain in the "partyfest" lifestyle, you may have to end it with her.  I lost many friends after I quit drinking, because they are still living that life that I have left behind.  

Answer 12

Talk to her about it, if it concerns you that much then she may need professional help.  Don't just walk away until you know that there is no saving it.... if saving it is what you want that is.  Good luck!!