I am having problems getting my 11 and 9 year olds to bring home their homework assignments?

Question

I have tried everything, take the games, fun activities, all privileges, i have made them do writing assignments, and extra home work but i just can't get them to remember to bring their things home from school does anyone else have problems like this and if so what do you suggest i try?

Answer 1

My 10 year old is having the same trouble.  I had a conference with his teacher and she said if he didn't bring stuff home, another student would be assigned to help him pack up right before school lets out.  Also, right before I drop him off for school, we go over a list of things he needs to remember, like: writing in his agenda, turning in his homework, bringing home assignments, turning in library books.

Answer 2

I asked my son's teacher at the begining of the year to call me if he got more than a few assignments behind. She made him call me during the first few minutes of his recess. That way I KNEW that he was to be bringing something home...and she knew that he had lied about it.

My son has an aide that helped him get all his assignments in order and pack his backpack . We also had to sign his assignment book to show that we saw it. He was sneaky...he would hide papers he needed and then say "I can't do x*x because I cannot find the paper I need"

Answer 3

well it's probably that there are no consequences to ignoring your demands. you need to come up with some real restrictions and stick to them. even children know when you are giving them b.s.. if you say you are going to punish them and then don't do it they learn this and take advantage. talk to there teachers and see if she will work with you. by letting you know when they don't bring in there homework. most teachers will help you because it helps them. also sending a child to his/her room doesn't work any more as most kids now have tvs and video games in there room. in simple terms you must keep a firm hand and let your children know you mean business. this is the only way to keep the respect that a parent needs..

Answer 4

Sounds like my 11 yr old son. I talked to his teacher and now someone from school checks his back pack to make sure he has everything in it before he gets on the bus to go home. My child's school has assignment notebooks they fill out and I must sign every night and this helps. If your school doesn't have them you can buy him a reg. planner. Kids get excited at the end of the day and some have trouble remembering what they need to take home.  

Answer 5

If you have to take away the games/fun activities they they are not privileges.  Privileges have to be earned obviously your kids have never had to earn the use of their games.  By nine years old homework should be the child's responsibility, not the parent's.  I can't remember when my kids "forgot" their homework, but then they have to earn television/game/computer time at that time is limited and monitored by me.  If they don't do their homework their grades will suffer and eventually they will be held back, thus being left behind by their peers.  I suggest you get the book "Ending the homework hassle" by John Rosemond.  It has some good ideas in it for parents who have children who refuse to bring homework home.

Answer 6

my 11 and 9 year olds do the same.  I simply called their teacher and asked if they could do an email to all the parents stating what the weeks homework was to be.  Helped soooooo many parents.   Some teachers wont have time.  But it doesn't hurt to ask.

Answer 7

Dont worry about it

if they start falling back then its there own fault

i dont believe in homework

the kids already do enough work at school

let alone geting a ton of home work to spend all day doing at home

Answer 8

talk to the teacher.  she may be able to email or fax you their homework without them knowing it.  this way you have open communication with the teacher and she's aware of the problem.  she would be the best person to talk to.  good luck

Answer 9

You call their teachers and let them know your kids are purposely leaving their work at school so they can't do it at home, and I'm sure they will have it in their packs when they come home.