Alright. SO this is going to be long, and contain a lot of detail.....
So, I currently live in Spokane where my fiance and all of his family lives. My parents live about 3 hours away in Yakima. And the majority of the rest of my family lives about 2 or 3 hours from Yakima in Longview area. (Which would make Longview about 5 or 6 hours away from Spokane.
To my understanding, the wedding is usually closer to the bride's side of the family, mainly because the bride's parents pay for it. So I was trying to find a location that would be a little closer to my family, but still in driving distance for my fiance's side. Basically a central location, which would end up being in the Yakima area where my parents live.
I thought it was a great idea, and would make it equal driving distance for both sides of the family. BUT, last week when I was talking to my fiance's sister about the wedding, she asked it I had found a place for the wedding to be held at yet, and I told her that I was really interested in this place up where my parents live. And then she said to me "Well, that's kind of far away don't you think?" and I explained to her that it would be a central location for both sides of the family. But she still thought it was wierd that I wanted it there, and made it seem like the wedding would be out of everyone's way if it wasn't here in Spokane. Then my fiance told her that at least it wasn't on the oregon coast (8-9 hours away from Spokane) like what I was looking at. And his mom yelled over to us "Oh it better not be in Oregon".
Now, that's not all. Yesterday, I came over to my fiance's parent's house and his dad just casually asked me if we had found a place yet for the wedding. I told him about the venue near my parent's house. He asked why I wanted it over there, and I again explained that it's a central location for both sides of the family. Then he said "Well, why don't you have it in Moses Lake (1.5 hours from Spokane) or in Ritzville (45 min from Spokane).
And after that, I went inside and was talking ot my fiance's mom, and I was telling her about the place I was going to go look at near my parents. I told her about how it is over half the price of everywhere else I looked at, and how beautiful everyone says it is there, etc. And that, again, it's a central location for both sides. The whole time I was explaining it to her, she just had a slight, fake smile on her face, and didn't say anything.
Now, I guess what my question is, is it really that wrong of my to want MY wedding to be in a central location, so that both of our familys can attend, witout makeing on side or the other drive more that the other? Is it bad of my to want MY family to be there too? Is it bad of my to be compramising so much that I'm to going to be having my dream wedding by the beach?
My fiance understands, and he is totally on board with the whole central location thing, but his family is acting like it's the worst idea ever. (oh, and to clear it up now, cause I know I'll get some questions about this.....I get along with his family just fine, they love me, and I love them.)
And how can I explain it to them that I want it closer to my family too?
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