I am having trouble with my parents..?

Question

(i am 14, not underaged for the site) they got in a huge argument last night. my mom started crying and stuff and so did my sister. i went out side and u could still hear them screaming. this is the first huge fight they had.

plz don't say get therapy or something, what can I do to help them?

Answer 1

If you say this is the first huge fight like this, then its not too bad. when he starts beating ur mom and you and your sister then its when it becomes a problem. But arguing that's a part of life. all couples argue. But maybe you should talk to ur mom and dad but separately. Let them know look im 14 now and I dont think that its appropriate for you and mom to fight in front of us. I dont like it.  

Answer 2

Nothing really...

If you but in too much they might just tell you mind your own business.... (thats what my mum would say)

My parents did the same thing your parent are doing about 2 years ago but in my case, I just turn 13 and I was the one balling my eyes out.

In a way most parent occasionally think about themselves and not about their children... never how it effects their kids.

At that time my parents were like questioning me about their problems.... I was so scared and nervous I just started crying....

I couldn't talk properly, so I just wrote them a note. A short message.... from the heart.

They eventually worked it out, even though my dad slept on the coach for a week....

Everything's normal now....  

Answer 3

its really nothing you can do because that is your parents relationship, they will try to hide the fact that they are having problems from you and your sister, you just have to be there for both of them, dont try to have a sit down with the 2 of them because its really not your place

Answer 4

As a parent, I can tell you that we argue with our spouses all the time. It's human nature for adults to get angry and upset with each other and because we are smart enough to know that a physical reaction to a situation is the wrong thing to do, we do the next best thing...we mouth off. We scream, yell, hollar...we do it all to get our point across. Sometimes it works and the argument is over shortly after it began. Other times, the argument can last for days. We do our yelling and then give others the silent treatment. It's how we've learned to try and control our anger.

By you going outside it removed you from the immediate situation. That was something you should be proud of. Never get into the middle of an argument with your parents and do not take sides. You will only make things worse for everyone.

Take a walk and get your sister to go with you when they have their next argument. Go to your room and get your sister to go with you...play a board or card game. Do anything you can to get out of the room they're in.

Even if the argument is about something you did or didn't do, do NOT get in the middle. Let your parents work it out. There isn't anything you can do other than let them argue. Believe me, when you're older & married, you'll be doing the same exact thing. You'll be passionate in your views and beliefs and will scream from the rooftops to get your point across.

Answer 5

my parents have only had one big fight it last about a week dad went away and then came back and said he just missed us all.

and now they been together for another 8 years so dont panic yet.

Answer 6

This is probably not the first time they have ever had a big fight honey. It may be the first time YOU heard them. The thing is, don't worry about it. All couples fight and it doesn't mean anything terrible is happening. Its healthy to fight sometimes, (as long as its not physical). Just think of this way, when you and your sister have a fight, don't you guys get over it and move on? Don't you still love each other? Of course. You are worrying for nothing, and besides there is nothing you can do to help them. Its their business not yours. Stay out of it and leave grown up things to grown ups. Everything will be fine. Good Luck.