I am in college and im living in a dorm and im pregnant.

Question

my boy friend goes to the same colloge as me i just got pregant. i cant leve colloege because my parents dont have that much and theya re paying i cant waste their money. i am not up for abortion or adpotion.

Answer 1

you brought yourself to that situation and should take responsibility of what you're bearing... as for financial support from your boyfriend he also has responsibility to you and your upcoming baby

Answer 2

You should think about what kind of life you're able to give your baby.  If you don't have money or resources, you child will have a disadvantaged life from the start.  I strongly suggest you and your boyfriend go speak to a counselor or doctor to talk about your options.  You should talk to student services as well because, contrary to what college students think, you CAN take time off without losing money - you just have to speak to them about your situation and defer your year.  You have many options so don't worry - just keep an open mind and think about what is most important to you and what you value.  

Answer 3

realistically you can't raise the kid. think of something.

Answer 4

You can do this, it's just going to be tough, especially in the begining.  Start by finding out what type of resources your school has for moms, especially single moms.  Most schools offer child care, and you can move from the dorm to non-traditional student housing like a small apartment.  You can at least finish out the semester, you may need to take a semester off before you resume classes, but that's up to you...  there is a lot of help out there for moms, you just have to find it.  Get on networking sites for moms, and spend the next 9 months getting ready for baby!  Take care of yourself.

Answer 5

My advice would be for both you and the boyfriend to get jobs, work hard, and save money.  Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

i advise you to continue with school until u have the baby and try to see if they offer on campus jobs and also there is alot of programs that is offered for single moms believe me its gone be hard but its worth it,dont loose faith in anything because reguardless of what everybodys opinons are it comes down to how you feel.All u need is confidence in yourself and you will be able to get through anything that comes your way.goodluck!!!!

Answer 7

If you’re not up for abortion or adoption then obviously there's only one choice. Drop out of school & raise the kid. If your parents & you are truly against abortion then either ask if your parents raise will the child (so you don’t have to drop out). If they say no. Don’t be surprised. Put the kid up for adoption. You would be giving the child an opportunity to have everything you can’t give him/her. You might also be blessing a family with the opportunity to raise children (if they can’t bear themselves). Personally, I think that if you can't support yourself you shouldn't be trying to support another human being. Next time use protection!

Answer 8

You didn't say when you are due, but hopefully it will coincide with breaks from college.  You may have to take a semester off to heal up and settle into your mommy role, but you can make it.  Perhaps there is a college close to your family that you could transfer to.  

I got pg in high school and went to a local college once I graduated.  I was able to get pell grants and other help since I was a single mother.  The grants and working part time helped me to make it financially.  I was a nanny and I cleaned churches both were jobs I could take my son to.  Since I went to a college in the town where I and my family lived, family members sometimes helped me with childcare.  

My son is grown now and a college graduate, so single mothers can make it work.  It will take changing your life and some work, but it is worth it.  I wouldn't trade the joy of having my son or the hard lessons I learned for anything!

Answer 9

Try talking to a counselor at your college. See what they may be able to offer (more financial aid, etc). Also, some colleges offer daycare for free for fulltime students. Ask them to help you find an on campus job.

I'd say find a job, work hard, save money. Have your boyfriend do the same. And you should do great!

Best of luck.

:)