I am in love ? But parents a problem....?

Question

i and my guy are true to each other, we both are employed also. Both of us are willing to marry by next year. As both have joined the job this month only. As I am 23 my parents have started looking for a groom. The problem with my guy is that he is of different caste and state. Actually both of us are not interested in register marrige, v wanna get married with our parents permission. But we Really dont know how to begin in our respective houses, we are planning to tell our parents but dont know how to begin... Kindly tell something which works out well in both our families.

Answer 1

i know it will seem simple to us but not to you guys..well as per me,u guys shud disclose this thing as soon as possible, as delays of any kind are hazardous to any relationship,,simply find a suitable time and tell ur parents about ur decision, n they love u so they wont kill u 4 getting indulged iin a relationship..no parents want their children to be sad, they will understand u and will support u in the end but try not to give them pain of any kind and dont indulge in any kind of activity like eloping from home..rest leave it to God..all will be well...all the best!!!!

Answer 2

its good to know that both of u r not only thnkng about u but also ur families. yaar just tell them some examples of succesfull inter-caste marrgs.

But if they didnt agree u both have to go for register marriage. Dont worry, ur parents might get a bit angry but time ll' make them normal. if u both love each other then just go for it.

Answer 3

try to interduce your guy and your parents and viseversa like have a BBQ or somthing.

Answer 4

Hi,

Try to talk any one of your nearest relative like aunti patiencecully brief your problem with her/him. Asked them to talk with your parents and draw a solution. Also told them that if it wont help you, you will take an opposite step(Not necessary that you will do the same) but it will force them to take out some positive response in favour of you and your lover.

Answer 5

You both are very new in service & don't know  day - to - day complications & rigours involved in carrying happy married life peacefully & smoothly. Only deep love, romance, regular s*x reaching o****m aren't sufficient for successful married life. Many social, domestic, emotional, physical & psychological factors come in sustaining life after wedding process for long time to come, you don't imagine now.  It needs a lot of compromises & adjustments at various levels. Go with your parents. It is possible that they  select a boy much better in all respects than this boy with whom you have only infatuation. None can be judged by a girl of your age in one month only. Parents are vastly experienced & they can anticipate so many things well in advance, you cannot imagine b coz of being experienced in real life. You're inviting trouble by thinking of intercaste marriage by trying cutting off your links with your family forever. You will need parents many - many times in future. Be truely God fearing too. Every major decision of life is taken by deep thought keeping pros & cons of everything .

Answer 6

show your parent you are suffering for depression,and choice a frend who will comunucated your pro.blem.

Answer 7

Life in itself is a challenge. What is the garuntee that the person whom your parents are arranging will be stable. And it is you who is going to live a life and you have the rights to decide as you are major....

They stick to the values which are outdated supass everything and be in your world and your decision will be far better than that they are deciding for you  

Answer 8

Don't think serious. Just tell your parent during a T time. You should marry with the blessings of your parents. Yes you can marry without their blessings even but remember it will not be a unsuccessful marriage life for long last.  

Answer 9

tell everything truth to u r parents. your parents will be ready for your happines. TRY IT TODAY

GOD BLESS U.

Answer 10

DON'T BE STRESSED U WILL DEFINATELY REACH UR DESTINATION but otherwise u are partly right but in other way ur parents are also right  

Answer 11

Have faith in urself first.. & confide that u'r doin nothing wrong...

& thn go to one of ur parents - mom or dad, any1 u'r comfi with.. speak out tht u like sum1 dearly.. ask them to meet him..

BUT b4 anythn.. tell him to disclose at his ples fst... see whether his parents like u & r ready for u to come in... thn disclose at ur ples...

& mind it.. if there's a denial at his ples.. dont go further...!! a well-wisher's advise for good life..!!

Answer 12

flow with the flow yaar.. flow with the flow.

Answer 13

Hi Sweety,  

As you are 23 Y I guess yr guy is elder then u. Yr planning for marraige in next year. You have long time to express this to your parents. You both are in different state now?  Or working together? The first sentance true to each other , do you know meaning of it? Pz trulyl understand this. If it is true , then start introducing your guy to your parents in a normal course.Invite on coffee at you home and introduce him. Don't make hurry to say the guy is good in nature etc etc .  Let your parents to feel the same gradually. If they says good for him pick the opertunity to say "I like guy like this but he is of other cast and state is the problem, if he would be of your cast and region I like such type of guy to be my life partner"  or simillar talk.  If parents says yes to this , then say that , as he is of diffferent cast and state but he is good enough to be a partner, and like this you take permission of your parents.  If they say no and you are keen to marry, you have more time to decide and take action.     Most important is that to check Trueness, and qualities in him to be your lifepartner.

Answer 14

Talk to your mother alone. She will help you out.

Answer 15

well have your parents said a straight forward no?? if no then think if he is a perfect groom your parents are in search of except the caste thing... if yes then talk to them chances they'll agree with your love if they have said no well you will have tp prove you both are worth each other....

Answer 16

tell your parents first....do not inform anyone else, your relatives etc, they cannot do anything, but they will make an issue. your parents are the only one, who knows your better, and will help you.

i did the mistake by telling one of my relative, and i am paying for it, my mother is very upset from me because of this, she said....i am your own, or those relative.

only the parents can help you in this, no one else....this i am seeing in my relationship. No any other person will help, (not your best frnd etc).

Ya, you can take hekp from his parents, after his parents got agreed.

pls pls, do not inform anyone in your house except your parents.

Answer 17

There is only one thing that u can do......Be courageous & bold and tell ur parents that u are in love. Observe ur parents reaction, and move ahead..Dont make them angry or egoistic. Tell them that u wanna marry with their permission.  

Answer 18

Stop worrying about parents,You guys are quite young, spend more time with each other still you feel like your love is stronger than your love towards ur parents then you try to convince them..may be by then they will be agreed to this otherwise you have to opt for registered marriage..you have enogh time to think and decide.