I am in love but we have s*x issues!!?

Question

Ok so my boyfriend is falling for me hard!! I like him so much hes like my perfect man, but hes been asking me questions about mairrage and if i would convert religions!! It scared me at first.....i dont think about those things. I think he wants to tell me hes in love with me and that he wants to marry me but were onyl 19; The thing is he used to be kind of a player hes not a little ***** or anything. The only thing is sometimes he has problems keeping it up...i know its not my fault....but the thing is all my ex's this has never happened, he seems so sensitive down there and he will so easily go hard or loose it....also we havent had s*x yet....im scared to do it because sometimes i think i will be bad because the one time we tried he lost his hard on. so now i dont wanna try....

I thought that was the end of it but then the next day he like professed his love...so i guess the s*x issues bother me more than him but still!!!

What can we do?? Is this normal???? I cant tell if he even wants to have s*x.x....i think hes insecure about his SIZE...

Answer 1

Perfectly normal for a young man.

His body gets all ready for s*x and then nothing happens.

Sounds like you need to do some serious thinking  because I see this young man getting very hurt. You're over your head .

Answer 2

well, just confront him and tell him that if he insecure about his size, you don't mind if it is big or small. He is probably average (6-7 inches).

Answer 3

I agree with the answerer above: He should see a medical doctor first, and then if necessary a sexual therapist/psychologist for testing.  The time to work on this problem is not, not after engagement or marriage!  If he resists, insist on it.  He owed it to you and your relationship to deal with it not "sweep it under the rug."

Answer 4

bring him off by hand or mouth.

let him bring you off by hand or mouth.

by the time that's happened, he should be ready for round 2.

Answer 5

Don't convert religions if you're not comfortable in doing so.  It should be your own personal choice.  Also, don't rush into marriage if you're not ready either.

There are certain condoms that will numb the p***s and guys who are sensitive to that, could lose their erection.  If you're using trojans, then that might be what's happening.  But if you're not using condoms, maybe just try to keep him excited with appropriate words, actions, sounds, etc.  If that doesn't work then maybe he should mention it to his doctor.

Good luck with everything.

Answer 6

Maybe he gets nervous because he likes you so much and doesn't want to offend you or let you down.  Give it a little more time and then if it doesn't get better, maybe he should check with a doctor.

Answer 7

He probably is insecure, that could be the very reason he loses it so easliy, it is so concerned about it and thinks about it too hard (no punt intended) then loses it. He needs to finds way to relax more and not think about it. You could help him by keeping him very intertained where he doesn't have time to think about it so much. If his size doesn't bother you-let him know.

hope this helps

Answer 8

Try something new. Ask what he likes or if he has any fetishes or something =\. He could be nervous and hoping you enjoy it.

Answer 9

Probably due to his youth...he has fast fire issues...

Answer 10

Oh, brother!!!

Sounds like a serious soap opera going on here, and

you haven't even had s*x yet!

Can't wait for season number 2!

Answer 11

yea it just a stage !

Answer 12

If it doesn't bother him that much then he's in denial. There's nothing wrong with you and if you love him you need to ask him to see a doctor. His problem could be either physical or psychological. In both cases he needs to see a professional. I've seen this problem in guys over 40 but for a 19 years old it's kind of unusual.

Answer 13

Thats not exactly normal and it most likely has nothing to do with you, he should see a doctor.

Answer 14

First. My initial reaction would be to say that he might be g*y. I know that's obvious, and might not be the cause. But I have to be honest. As a g*y man, I remember being 19 and struggling with my sexuality. I tried so hard to have s*x with women. I would get an initial erection, but would eventually lose it and couldn't do the deed.

Second. Let's say he's not g*y. There is still a problem and you two need to discuss it. You shouldn't be afraid to discuss anything with someone your about to be intimate with and especially someone you are considering marrying. There are two of you involved. It's your sexual pleasure as well.

Third. Love is a dumb reason top get married. Let me rephrase that. It's not the only reason. The chief reasons why marriage fail are finances. I think your too young, and you have a lot to discuss before you consider getting married. But ultmately, it's up to you.

Final. This is someone your considering making your life partner. You should be able to discuss ANYTHING with him. A relationship can only survive with open and honest communication.