I am in love with my best friend’s mother? ?

Question

I think I am in love with my mother’s best friend. I have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and I am obsessed with her. I sleep over at my friends house a lot, but only when her dad’s away, otherwise they fight. When my friend is asleep her mother and I hang out. Her mother seems so broken, so frail. I just want to seduce her, make her fall in love with me. The last time she was crying and I was sitting with her and she was smoking and we just talked. I realize this is an unorthodox situation and I need advice. I don’t want to act on what is going on in my head, but I don’t know if I can control myself. What should I do?

Only mature answers please…

Answer 1

It's not healthy to take advantage of someone who's hurting. Maybe you see something in her that you want in a significant other. Maybe it's just that you admire her maturity or some of her views on life or something about her but you don't really love her. Or maybe you see her as a mother figure. Whatever the reason, there's a need in your life that's not being met, but your friend's mother is not the answer. Maybe you should sever the emotional ties you have to her mother and put some distance between you, not spending so much time with her. It's great you can be there for someone who's hurting, but when it's someone you have that kind of desire for, you might want to step back and evaluate the situation and your motives. You have a lot going on in your life and hurt you need to address. Whatever is affecting you don't let it control your life. I stand behind meds and counseling (both short-term). Unless it's a life or death situation that cannot be cured or treated any other way I do not agree with lifelong medication. While some mental illness/psychological disorders are biological in nature, I think a lot of it is emotional garbage we don't deal with and it keeps getting bigger and uglier. Also, at the root, most times it's a spiritual problem that manifests itself as physical or psychological. Just my thoughts.

Answer 2

Oh this is horrible. Please stop this. What kind of love? You need to stay away from her if you are rligious.