I am in love with my brother in law. Please help.?

Question

I am in a very horrible situation. I have been married for 2 years to my absolutely wonderful, adoring, respectful husband whom I love with all my heart. I have been spending a lot of time with my brother in and we recently admitted to each other that we are in love with on another. I love this man with a burning passion that I feel I cannot control and I know he feels the same way. I would never cheat on my husband and I have never slept with my brother in law but I am passionately in love with him. I don't know what to do because I feel if I stay with my husband I will be living a lie, but I love him so much. My love for my husband is much more of a friendship type of love for me now. I can't continue like this because I do not want to cheat on my husband, I feel if I continue this way I will only end up sleeping with my brother in law.

Answer 1

That is horrible!!! Everyone is in control of their own life. Stop making excuses because that doesn't make things right. The fact is you both have crossed the line and that is disgusting! So you hook up with your brother in law and then in two years when the honeymoon is over, who will be next? How sad that people do not respect the sanctity of marriage anymore!

Answer 2

You are disgraceful - think of what this would do to his family, his relationship with his brother. Just refrain yourself - be strong!

Answer 3

You are treading on very dangerous grounds.

You have this wonderful husband, and you are ready to throw him to the curb for his brother.

Have you completely lost your mind?

You may not have had s*x with the bro-in-law, but you have cheated emotionally with him already.  The way you are going it won't be long until you do nasty act of ruining your marriage and several lives too.  How selfish!  

You need to stay away from him.  The only way you should be around him is if other people are there too.  That way you won't mess up all of your lives.

Take all of this heat in to a cold shower, or sit in a cold bath until you are not thinking of the terrible thing you want to do.

So are there children's lives to me ruined  in this mess too?  

Answer 4

the rule is never sleep with a man's brother or his best friend.  IF you leave your husband do you intend to have a passionate relationship with the brother in law?..Quit spending time with the brother in law. If he calls make up an excuse to why you can't spend time with him. You say you love your husband with all your heart, then you must not let him be hurt by this desire for your brotherinlaw, how can you leave your husband for no apparent reason?  you will have to tell him something.  

Answer 5

Listen woman you will not have a relationship with your brother-in-law unless you and your husband are divorce.Even if that happen you will still refuse to be in a relationship with him.How would you feel if your husband was inlove with his sister-in- law

Answer 6

haha wow this is weird situation

i dont think u should get with ur brother in law because then it will make it all the worse and when u see ur husband now that would just make it all BAD

haha if i were u, i would try and stay away from the brother in law and get urself to loving ur husband again

Answer 7

If you "continue this way you will end up sleeping with your brother-in-law"???

That doesn't sound like love, like a soul-connection you both can't deny. It sounds like s*x.

But, "you would never cheat on your husband."

You need to stop.

I wonder did this come out of nowhere or did you "love" your brother-in-law before you married your husband?

Your feelings are about to brake up a family. If you think your husband and his family will ever accept you being with your brother-in-law then you have lost your mind. You two would probably be written out of the family and with all that anger it will be blamed on you being the woman who tore apart their sons. This would not be taken lightly.

This is not the time to be thinking of yourselves.

You need to stay away from your husbands brother. Avoid him at all costs. Don't talk to him on the phone, don't sit next to or across from him at family dinners, don't make googly eyes across the room, if you draw him in secret santa, trade with your husband "because you don't know what to get him" etc. He is your husbands brother and that is it.

Work on your marriage. Figure out what is going on in your marriage that makes you feel the need to stray to someone else in the first place, much less your brother-in-law. Go to counseling. Open the lines of communication between you and your husband. Do not tell him about the feelings you have for his brother. That would be purely selfish to "get it off your chest". It would only hurt him and definitely not make you feel better.

Find out why you're unhappy in your marriage.

If it turns out that you and your husbands marriage is over and you choose to divorce, I guarantee it would still be a cold day in h**l when it would be acceptable for you to be with his brother.

Huge wake-up call chicka!!

Seek counseling, find a hobbie, throw yourself into work...something.

"Bro's before ho's" remember? LOL

Answer 8

i am so sorry that ur in this situation.

if you love each other than it's not fair to ur partners.

it would make much more sense for everyone involved to be honest so everyone can pursue what they need.

everyone deserves to be loved.

it won't help to live a lie and not really love the people your with.

be honest and keep this from going on any longer.

it may be more dramatic..but it's whats right.

they[ur sister and husband] deserve complete love.

not anything less.

these are awful circumstances,don't blame urself.

i hope ur sister and husband will eventually find relationships and it won't cause hurt between any of you.

just be honest and express what's going on to everyone involved.

you deserve happieness too.

xoxo~

<3 feriell

Answer 9

Stop it right now before you regret it!! This is your husband's brother you are talking about!!! You are not in love with your brother-in-law. You are looking for excitement and so is he. Stay away from this BOY, he is despicable, this is his brother he is betraying!! Why would you even consider destroying your marriage over him? Get a grip and find some exciting things to do with your husband.Take a weekend trip with your HUSBAND and rekindle the love you had for him in the beginning of your relationship. You will be a fool and just as despicable as your husband's brother if you continue to see him. Don't ruin your life and your husband's life. Think about it! I know you will do the right thing. Good luck

Answer 10

You should be ashamed of yourself!  Your brother-in-law should definitely be off limits to you.  Why don't you put some effort in your own marriage?  This sounds really trifling!  But remember, what goes around, comes around!