I am loosing faith in humanity, how can I restore it?

Question

I was always an ever optimistic person when younger, but I have changed, or rather the world around me has changed. I have to deal with rude, ignorant people on a daily basis and have had my fill recently. I feel like becoming a hermit. any advice?

Answer 1

Being optimistic is ok but dealing with rude and ignorant people.. well thats the breaks. No matter how old you get you'll always see or come in contact with people that are this way. Just get over yourself and roll with the punches then you'll see that being a hermit isn't what its all cracked up to be.Also.. get out and have some fun, meet a nice girl enjoy life because you only have one life to live.

Answer 2

Abigail, you have one of the most wonderful job on the earth; you are a nurse. Try to give all your heart to the patients. I know it is very hard when you have to deal with backstabbing, hypocrite and so on nasty type people, coworkers, on the daily basis. They are all over, everywhere, just on different names. Because of them, please do not loose your faith! There are many of them whom need your optimistic generosity!!

Why don't you try become a traveling nurse?  

Answer 3

Get away from them.  Form some friendships with some pleasant and gentle and respectful people. The other answerer is right: Rude and unpleasant people are everywhere, though perhaps not in such a concentration that you have to deal with.  Try to find another job.  In the meantime, consider your present work good training.

There are a lot of good people around us all.  I would say, on the average more good than jerks.  Spend as little time with the jerks as you can, for your own peace of mind.

Life is like a bus station--you get all kinds.  People are a mix of good and evil, really.  Find those that emphasize the good!

Answer 4

Follow your heart.  Disassociate yourself from those who you dislike, don't worry about the ignorant people, and keep true to yourself.  

Answer 5

leave your job or find another environment and if that don't work..find another planet..no matter where you go you will meet those people and don't be surprised those same people consider you rude or ignorant..the old saying...if you cant handle the heat get out of the kitchen

Answer 6

Just deal with people as little as possible. We are living in a dog eat dog world. You can't trust anyone, even those considered your friends. That, my dear, is just a fact of life. Do as much as possible on-line, such as banking, and shopping. Find a job where you can work independently. It isn't going to get any better, because we live in a land of frustrated people.

Answer 7

You can't count on others to do the work for you! if you feel so strongly on the matter your the one who has restore your faith! give money to charity, help those with no jobs or homes, adopt a needy animal or if you feel think it would be possible help a poor country get water or grow crops! there are endless amounts of things you can do, small or big at least your helping! :)

hope it helps!

Answer 8

Being a hermit isn't the answer; I've been there, and it's not really fun. You'll likely hear unkind voices in your head when you're always alone. A "boxed-up" existence lets you miss out on opportunities with kind, sincere, knowledgeable people who can help you fulfill your potential.

You must decide to consistently show the opposite behavior of these people, so that they will either choose to change or avoid you.  If you haven't, draw close to God in relationship through Jesus Christ, and He'll give you wisdom, understanding, knowledge, and strength you need to resist the pressure. Putting complete faith in people will lead you to disappointment. Those who trust in God won't be disappointed or put to shame.

Remember, everything in this life is temporary.

Answer 9

It sounds like you're angry at rude, ignorant people. And generally tired of having to deal with them.

Acceptance overcomes the need to murder them. Accept that they are "only human," and humans can often be repulsive, vindictive, rude and ignorant.

Do not take what they are saying to you personally- particularly if you work in public service. How would they even know you (if they are, eg customers), to be taking it out on you?

Being calm, rational and using "reflection" overcomes anger. Phrases like "I can see you're upset because of..." And "I can see you're upset because of..." Are good. Usually, people who make the most noise (even through venting hostility or rudeness), get a lot out of knowing you hear them. Often they want to be heard. Reflecting back to them how they must be feeling validates them. Then reassured, they tend to back off and leave you be.

When all else fails, and you absorb your share, you have to have an outlet, to vent your frustration. We all have the capacity to absorb stress and negativity. The trick is to wring it out. It could be something simple like listening to your own music; reading in the bath; whatever it is, find it, because it will help restore your balance.

So forgive then for being human; find a few interpersonal communication tools to use- like reflection; have unwinding time.

I hope it helps.