I am not Racist! but I dont want my daughter dating Blacks.?

Question

I am not Racist! but I am against interracial dating and marriage. My daughter brought a black boy home from school against my rules.

I told the boy to go away and never talk to my daughter again. Some of

my best friends are black, but my Irish roots must be kept Pure, my

daughter is 17 years old. I am a Christian

How do you feel about my actions? Am I a Racist to have White Pride.

Answer 1

i checked your previous questions, and one said you're black passing for white [so much for irish roots], and another saying you're dating a black woman? i smell a troll.....

Answer 2

If you weren't racist...you wouldnt have had a problem with your daughter dating people of any race.....being a Christian yourself...you should know better! Shame on you....and thats something not to have "white" pride about...its pure ignorance!!

Answer 3

yes, and you are prejudice. the world is made up of people of color and religion whether you like it or not. i'm a christian too and you don't see me barking off at people who aren't the same race as me. you have a lot to learn. and just because you did this and embarrassed your daughter, she will rebel against your wishes, no doubt about that.

Answer 4

Why does pride mean u exclude others?  I am the product of Irish, Portuguese, African, French, and German.  I have no problem with interracial dating.  I think when you use "race pride" as an excuse for insecurity then you do have a problem.  You can teach others about your culture, history, and family, but that does not mean you have to deny someone from becoming a part of it.  You are proud of being Irish.  Does this mean she can only marry an Irish or can she marry any other like (german, italian, swedish) as long as they are not black?  Sorry my friend--ur a racist and if your black friends knew, they would probably not want to be your friend.

Answer 5

white pride? I am white and I was offended by that! what is your daughter going to grow up thinking? that absolutely absurd.

you didn't give a reason why you didn't want her to date blacks, all you said was you want your irish heritage to be kept Irish.

I can understand that you embrace being Irish but your daughter will probably start going behind your back and doing far worse things than this.

Answer 6

You're not racist at all, there is a huge cultural difference between your background and the way you are to his background and the way hes is, and like with everything else you should be able to pick what you like and what you don't like.  That being said, depending on how smart your daughter is it is her right to be able to choose what she wants, however you should educate her on your family heritage if you have not done so already.  I'm not racist either but I do believe that two completely different world as such will not mesh together very well.  So I suggest you wait and see what happens if he doesn't leave then see what he is all about and make your decision.

Answer 7

I'm Black/Mexican and my son's dad is white.

Dude I don't want my son dating white girls- they tend to S****y. And my son is an athlete and we know white girls and athletes of color mix like spaghetti and meatballs....

So best believe I would tell your daughter to get the h**l off my doorsteps too.

Answer 8

"but my Irish roots must be kept Pure"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

WTF?

That IS racist!

I can't believe you would tell a guy that your daughter was dating "against your rules" to go away and never talk to her again!!!!!!!

That is RACIST!

You need to let her date and marry who she wants!

THAT IS NOT WHITE PRIDE!!!!!!!!

That is you being a racist a$$hole!

I am white and that IS racist!

Let your daughter be with who she wants!

MORON!

Answer 9

My mother is very similar.  I stopped talking to her over a year ago.  

When I was an undergraduate student, she called me long distance and forbade me from even having a meal with an African-American college friend, in public.  He was actually half African-American, and half Pacific Islander/Asian, but that was unacceptable for her.  I disobeyed her and went out anyways.

Your viewpoints may lead to a strain in your relationship with your daughter.  If my future daughter were to date an African-American guy, who knows, maybe their child may turn out to be a Tiger Woods type?

Answer 10

  Telling him to go away and not speak to your daughter is plain rude!  Whether you like it or not if you are against interracial marriage you are racist.  Your daughter is at the age where your opinion does not matter.  As a matter of fact pushing him away like that may even drive her closer to him.

Answer 11

you sound like my mom when ever she sees a white person and a black person kissing she gags!! and you know what i call her?RACIST!!!!!!!!!!!! why is  any of your business if your daughter likes this guy?!! i mean its not like your going to be there on their honeymoon right?! my suggestion deal withit or lose ur daughter!!!is ur white pride worth ur daughter?

Answer 12

no your not racist to have white pride, but you are a racist because you won't allow black people in you home, yo irish mick with your alchoholic father and potato peeling mother. sounds like you are an evil biggot.

oh I just want you to know that most 17 year old girls go have s*x, maybe anal, lots of oral s*x with black guys usually because it pisses of there parents. In your future I see black grandchildren I wish upon you black grandchildren and a black son- in law. There is nothing pure about the irish.

Answer 13

That's pretty much racist, man.  Besides it's your daughter's choice.

To say that he would be tainting your pure blood is to say that he's not as good as you because of his race, which is racist, unless you're against anyone who isn't all irish, which is also pretty stupid.

Answer 14

Your a hypocrite you can have black friends but your daughter cant date a black person? why? what good reason do you have? You are basing your judgment on stereotypes and hearsay and that is racist. and wtf is being irish have to do with anything. Im proud to be white but i dont judge people based on things like stereotypes and your daughter is gonna do what she wants anyway and the more you push her away the more shes gonna rebel

Answer 15

You can be proud of your race without putting other races beneath your feet.  I think what you're doing to your child borders on abuse; your child is either going to grow up with your same misguided biases or, worse for you, turn against you for trying to force your views onto her.  Christianity teaches tolerance of all types of views and races - where is yours?

Answer 16

Your not racist to the max. I mean your not bad enough where people should say your crazy, but the way I look at it, and the what I told my mom (she is JUST like you) yes, I am white 17 year old, but Love doesen't have a color. I mean, we are ALL people, but our skin is different colors. Big deal. ya know? Just because this boy was black doesen't mean he acts any different than a pure Irish Boy. He probably has a good heart and cares about your daughter, even if he just wants to be her friend and not have a ralationship, you have to see the guy for whats on the inside, not the color of his skin. :)  You know that your best friends that are black have a good heart, and they are fun to be around, your daughter probably thinks the same thing about this boy. Once again, if Love happens it shouldn't matter....

Plus, Black people and really white (irish ppl like us) make cute babies. haha

Hope that helped, goodluck. :)

Answer 17

If your action does not count as being racist, then what is your definition of racist, KKK? If your reason for disliking the idea of your daughter dating a non-Caucasian male, for the difference and conflict between the communication and the cultures of two races, then that is totally understandable. However your action somewhat reflects your negative perspective of other non-caucasian race, which IS considered racism.

Definition:

The inability or refusal to recognize the rights, needs, dignity, or value of people of particular races or geographical origins.

Answer 18

yeah, you ARE racist.

it's your DAUGHTER'S life, NOT your.

you can't tell her who and who not to date.

if she wants to date that boy, LET HER.

it's not up to YOU, to plan out her life.

let her be a teenager for christ sake!

Answer 19

You are not racist to be proud of being a white Irish.  But you a being predjudice against who your daughter can and cannot see. Just because your daughter likes this black boy does not mean she will marry him or he will father her children, your grandchildren.  She needs to be able to explore and figure this out for herself. Telling her NOT to see him is only going to make her rebel and she will see him more, behind your back.  Also, she may get pregnant on purpose to spite you for the h**l of it. ease up and stop being an a.s.s. Get over it hun, the 1900's are over.  

Answer 20

What does it matter if you are a christian?

I don't think that God would abject to love.

I'm pure Irish too and i know how you feel about not wanting to taint that, but honestly she is going to have her way if she is inlove with the person. And trust me no one will stand in her way.

You can try but it will ruin your relationship with your daughter.

Answer 21

Wow what a sensitive subject, look how many comments youve gotten

neways, first off, let me begin by saying I am a mixed person, and i love every minute of it

My white side of the family was totally against interracial marriage.  When they found out that my mother was pregnant with me, they were very upset.  But when I was born, they fell in love with me, and I have developed into a very well off child.  

Also, I am Catholic, so the fact that you are Christian and againts interracal marriages is a bad thing, no offence.  

If you think about it, the combinding of two complete different people (white and black) is a beautful thing.  God wanted us to unite as one, and become a society that was bonded by our love of him and the rest of the world.  So the comming together of two totally different people is a good representation of our faith.  

But what do i know, im just a 16 high school student with no clue

-Acon

Answer 22

Actually you'd be surprised that White Pride and Racist usually go hand in hand. Personally it's your dauhters choice who she wants to marry and to be honest I doubt you'd care if your daughter was dating and italian kid. So yes it is racist to not want your daughter to date a boy just based on the color of his skin.

Answer 23

Your actions are the very definition of "racism". (Not liking a person purely on the basis of color, going against dating "my own race", having grandeur ambitions of "keeping the bloodline pure" - these are all characteristics associated with racist individuals.) Honestly, I'm fine with racists, as long as they acknowledge it. That way, everyone else is forewarned - warned enough to know what to do in the next five seconds.

Answer 24

You're a troll all your other questions don't add up to this stuff at all. One question you asked is saying that you 21 which would make you too young to have a 17 year old daughter. And all your other questions are a buncha bull in terms of them leading up to this. Do the people on here a favor and quit wasting their time !!

Answer 25

Yes, you are a racist. It's not racist to love and respect where you came from, but keeping your blood "pure" ? That's some some Aryan Nation / KKK / n**i stuff you're talkin there. So I suppose you'd be more ok with your daughter adopting a white baby than a black baby?

Answer 26

yes i believe so isn't it  'love one another as i have loved you' in you churchy peoples word of god,try loving rather than casting away.i ask would you be the same if the lad was white but canadian or english i guess not how many can claim to be of full origin there's scottish welsh english irish in most descendants you just don't know as we are all white it cant be seen.

Answer 27

RASICIST tradition is ment to be broken let her date who she wants what if hes the one do u wanna keep ur daughter from true love because of ur "irish roots" i dont think so get a hobby insted of being" im not rasicst but i hate black" thats pretty much wat ur saying

Answer 28

Personally I feel that this is stereotypical and this action is rooted within a belief that has no grounds. If you're not racist, what is you reason for mistrusting black people? Is it perhaps a belief that black people are caught in dangerous situations involving gangs, etc.? If this is the case then in your mind you are trying to protect your daughter, which is an understandable reaction. However, I would get to know this boy before you misjudge him and keep him away from your daughter. This type of firm, groundless rule will only cause her to rebel whenever she can and could lead her to a more dangerous, unhealthy relationship with black men in the future.

This whole scenario reminds me of an episode of Law and Order where a girl was found dead at her boyfriend's house. In the end, we find out that her father killed her because her past few boyfriends had been black. Don't turn out like this! Live the American way and be open-minded to everything!

As for white pride, go ahead! Be proud that you are white! Pride in your looks is all well and good, but denying someone else the right to love because of the color their babies' skin would be? That is cruel! You and your daughter both have your Irish bloodlines. In my opinion, that's all you have a right to control.

Answer 29

Question is, why do you NOT let her date a black guy ? Did he do something wrong, or do you have a stereoptypical image of them because of the media? What if she brought home an asian or mexican guy? Would you say no as well? If you want to have "white" or irish pride, then don't let your daughter date anyone unless his roots are Irish. Any other European country would not do. If you say otherwise you are completely contradiciting yourself.

I think that is highly racist and race shouldn't be a factor in deciding who your daughter should date. Get your head out of tradition and go with the times!

PS--NO ONE in the Bible is really that "Irish" anyway...who the h**l cares? All the important prophets are of brown or middle eastern descent. You are super stupid.

Answer 30

wtf is ur problem. i completly disagree. u have a serious problem. how do you think you made him feel. i just dont get it why people are like you think this way. its just the colour of skin it has nothing to do with there personalitly or what they do. im not black but i think that is rediculous. in my opinion ur a horrible racist father!

Answer 31

yes you are acting like a racist! most people that say they have black friends yet still talk as you do of interracial dating/marriage are indeed racist. If you were a true christian then it would not matter what race your daughter chose as a companion. A person's skin color has absolutely no bearing on the type of person they are. You are probably not an ignorant person but your comment makes it appear as though you are. If I were you, being a Christian and all, I would be more concerned with getting to know the type of person this gentlemen is and not hold his race against him. What do you think Jesus would do in this instance? Yeah, I know you're not Jesus! But as christians we are portraying the image that Jesus would have upheld and you're not doing such a good job right now. Having "white pride" is not going to get you to heaven! Read the bible cover to cover and I don't think there is anything in there that justifies what your saying. You need to pray and ask God to help you in this situation so as to keep you from making a mockery of christians all over!

God bless you and I will pray for you!