I am obsessed with my lack of looks?

Question

I think there has to be a disease for this.

I am obsessed with the way I look and not in a good way. I think I'm ugly and defective. Plain and ordinary. Not good enough.

And why I'm so hyped on this is because I fear that this will affect my professional life. I fear that I will not get the great job because my face kept me from it. I fear the mirror and I fear leaving my house. I take three hours to get ready and I still feel so unattractive that i want to burst into tears. I hate myself.

Is there a disorder with these feelings?

This is what I look like: http://www.flickr.com/photos/28891892@N06/

for which i am ridiculed and ostracized.

AND DO NOT SAY THAT LOOKS DON'T MATTER. THAT IS RIDICULOUS.

I have a lot of brain and ambition, but not the looks to help me succeed. And looks make a huge difference in the corporate world.

Answer 1

You don't look ugly at all.  Problem solved!

Answer 2

I'm a guy and i don't think you look bad at all.   you look nice

Answer 3

Are you serious? You are a very attractive woman. And very professional looking with your outfit and hair done so nicely. Yes there is a disorder for this and its called body dysmorphic disorder.

Please see a doctor and get some help with this. No one should have to go through life feeling so sad. There is no reason for you to hate yourself. I know a lot of women who would love to be as pretty as you are.  Please see a doctor. This is just wrong thinking on your part, and there are medicines to help you get your perspective back.

Best wishes to you!

Answer 4

take the advice of the people..............Why are you posting this question over and over again? i dont understand

Answer 5

Alot of girls are self conscious about things that aren't true. I think that you look good and have nothing to be ashamed of. If people are making fun of you its probably because they don't feel good about themselves and want to make you feel uncomfortable. I have seen girls that look wayyyyy worse then you become successful but its starts from the inside. You have to accept that you are a beautiful and let that translate into confidence not only in your appearance but also your attitude. There are alot of haters out there doing their part to hate, why give them the satisfaction when you can just laugh at them and say hey it must suck being depressed all the time. Enjoy life and trust that you will become whatever you like through determination. If you still don't think you are pretty then give me a call and I will tell you you look good personally  

Answer 6

i've felt that way pretty much my whole life. i never wanted to go outside, i was afraid to introduce myself to other people, i alwayss wanted to hide, and the list goes on. i recently discovered that confidence is the key. hold your chin up and chest out. it really made a difference.

i decided that i needed a change. i went to the store, bought some new make up, got a different hairstyle, and new clothes. i experimented with the make up until i found what suited me.

now im a totally different person then i was last year.

you look absolutly beautiful and im being 150% honest. don't let the negitive thoughts get in the way. instead write down every little negitive thing you have to say about yourself and rip it up. look in the mirror and actually say "i am happy with the way i am. i did everything i could. i am gorgeous."

confidence is the key :]

Answer 7

Honestly you look like a normal girl and you are pretty. And yes there is a decease called Body dysmorphic disorder and only a psychiatrist can diagnose it. If you feel horrible ugly or you feel like you are not like everyone else, or afraid to go out and be seen or you have to cover your face. You should seek professional help.

hope it helps

Answer 8

There probably is, there definitely is one where people feel the need to pile on obscene amounts of makeup because they feel that they are so ugly. And to be honest, if you feel this strongly about your looks then you should ask your doctor about it cos you are really pretty! Although everyone feels the same about themselves to a lesser degree.

There's something called body dysmorphic disorder ...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmor...

Answer 9

Personally, I think you're gorgeous and have no reason to feel this way. All of us feel insecure about something, but I don't think it should be taken this far. I'm not sure if there is a disorder. Do you feel depressed?

Answer 10

you're beautiful, please don't call yourself ugly.

low self confidence is what will hurt you in the business world.

please start to love yourself. if you act like youre beautiful, people will perceive you as beautiful.

i feel the same way as you at times and i think i might have BDD because no matter how many people compliment me, i still feel like im not good enough.

i'm telling you the advice that im trying to make myself follow:

love yourself. you are the most important person in your life.

Answer 11

I was sorely tempted to answer without even looking but felt you deserve an honest assessment of your appearance.  It's not that looks don't matter, but other aspects of a person are so much more important.  I also feel that I'm wasting my time telling you that you're petty because you're obviously getting something out of hating yourself.  I suggest you start doing something for other people and shift the focus from yourself.  With some luck, you'll outgrow this.

Answer 12

low self-esteem. Talk with someone you trust about your feelings. They may be able to help you out some.

Answer 13

Are you serious? You are NOT ugly!

I don't understand why the pretty girls think they are ugly, the beautiful girls are so conceited that it makes them ugly and the no so pretty girls are stuck up!

There is nothing wrong with the way you look!