I am pregnant. Worried, scared..don't know what to do?

Question

So i recently found out that i am pregnant. Total surprise. This will be be second pregnancy. I have a 3 year old boy. I had a very high risk pregnancy. I developed severe pre-eclampsia at 30 weeks, which was very difficult and just about lost my baby as well as my own life. Because of all that my son has some developmental delay. We believe that he is autistic as well. He doesn't speak. We are in the process of getting him diagnosed. Anyway I am really scared this time. I am not sure if i can go through this again..especially when i have a special needs child at home already to take care of. i just don't know what to do.

Answer 1

Call your Department of Human Services or your health deparment.Explain to them what has happened and your fears.They can set up up with appointments with all kinds of doctors and phyical theapist.There is a test they can do to see if your baby is developing normally or if there is a problem.Also,they can test you more often and keep ahead of any problems that may arise.The sooner that these tests can be preformed the better chance you both have.As for your son,there are a lot of support groups out on the web that can help you do little things to help your son to maintain or regain what they seem to be losing.Doctors are more informed today then just a year ago.Dont be afraid to ask questions.Make sure you are eating properly and excersising and resting.Dont worry so much about what MIGHT happen.Get informed,and be sure you are involved in what the doctor decides.IAsk questions if something does not seem right or feel right or you just dont understand.If your doctor has a problem with that,find another doctor.And autisium isnt  inherited thru genes.The cause is still unknown,but some people feel that it maybe some of the immunizations that are given to our children that cause it.But even if it comes to the realization that your son does indeed have autisium,there is hope.Dont wait,just check the web and talk to some parents of children who have it.Its a rough road,but it's one that you can see a light at the end of the tunnel.Progress is being made everyday!God blessed you with a child that may seem withdrawn or gentler then most on the outside.But I bet he is a very outgoing child on the inside.And he will shine!And God knows you.He would not bring you to it,if he was not going to see you thru it.He must see you as a very loving and caring person.Trust in his blessing.Everything is going to work out ,you'll see!Just take care of yourself and your unborn,and love your son everyday and you will see that your heart ,love and faith can make miricales happen!And you are not alone in this!

Answer 2

You left an awful lot out, like how long you've been pregnant, is the father with you and supporting you emotionally and physically, etc.  

I would want to suggest immediately getting into prenatal care, and making sure you alter what you consume (try to go vegetarian, and eliminate exposure to any toxins) to prevent another problem pregnancy.  While general sources say the causes of pre-eclampsia are not exactly known, I'm sure a bit of further research might help you learn a bit more about the condition and its causes.  

Mostly, you have to consider all the risks carefully, discuss your research with many people to get multiple opinions to get the best possible understanding, and discuss this all with the support people in your life.

Knowledge is the key to knowing how to move forward, but don't forget that your heart will ultimately make the final decision, so let your heart guide your head, and trust your heart.

Answer 3

So what is your question?????

Did you want us all  to say go ahead and have another?  No, in your place I  would not.  But I'm not you, nor does anyone on this site  know your level of concern, your tolerance to have another like this one, your physical condition, nor what your doctor has said about the risk of a "repeat performance."  And only you know those things.

Answer 4

Dearie, my heart goes out to you. Please be strong for yourself and your baby. What you need to do now is to get to a gynaecologist immediately to get a professional opinion. Be honest about your medical history. You will be probably placed under close monitoring.

Take care!

Answer 5

I quite literally had the EXACT same thing happen. Severe pre-eclampsia, resulting in an induction at 34 weeks, the cord was wrapped around his neck resulting in cerebral palsy, and I was a couple hours away from a stroke....when he was 6 months old I ended up pregnant. I was using protection and was using the ring...It was not an irresponsible act...just a surprise. I found an OB who specialized with high risk pregnancies and pre-eclampsia specifically, and made it to 38 weeks with gestational hypertension. Never developed into pre eclampsia. Its a scary thing, but it can be done. I did it!!

Good luck and if you want to chat i can be reached at [e-mail]

Answer 6

You are in a very hard position!!! Do you have any family or any good friends that you can talk to and voice your concerns with??  I would think you should probably go to the doctor as well and tell them your concerns and find out the odds/risks of what can go wrong in this pregnancy.  I have nephews that are triplets and one of them has autism, so I know the feeling with developmental issues.  If you have no help and no friends/family near I can see how this would be overwhelming.  You really need to get to the doctor and possibly seek some counseling to help you make an informed decision!!  I hope this helps and wish you the best no matter what you decide!!!