I am pregnant and feel alone...why?

Question

k so me and my bf have been on a very rough road. we have been on and off for a year no i was pregnant last summer and lost the baby.... it was one of the hardest things i didn't feel like he was really there for me.... well anyways he broke up for a month and we have been starting to see each other aging. long story short i am pregnant and his parents didn't know we were seeing each other and well they found out and had a talk with me his mother totally ripped me a new one and talked **** about my family and he didn't really stand up for me. well that angered me . and now he wants me to talk to his family and make things right with them... other wise he wont see me anymore.... pretty much he wants me to go kiss his parents ***... oh and he dosent want to be involved. what do i do? i am feeling really sick and weak i am also very emotional. I am living with my family and they have on idea yet... they will freak. (and his parents have no idea eather).....

Answer 1

U sound young, it must be really hard 4 2 be able 2 trust some1 & share ur life because u wouldn't feel alone if u had a good  friend u can talk 2 or a sibling. U HAVE 2 talk 2 ur mom... It's not going 2 make it any better if u hide it till u almost about 2 give birth. That'll be really unhealthy 4 both u & da baby. This should be a joyous time in ur life. Even if ur young, u can still make something of urself . UR life isn't over. Ur having a baby, a blessing. Ur parents r going 2 be super hurt & more than likely disappointed because they don't want u 2 suffer or go through any hardships. If he doesn't want 2 be involved his lost so y r u still with worrying. about him? Y doesn't his parents like u ? or want u 2gether? cuz u got pregnant b4? Either way 2 finally answer ur question being pregnant and feeling alone is normal 4 any pregnant young lady who doesn't have any kind of emotional support. Hope it all works out 4*

Answer 2

You definitely do NOT need to go worship his parents feet. If they offended you, let them know. But you dont have to apologize for being pregnant, you could remind them that it takes two to make a baby, and the only partner was THIER son.

Answer 3

I wouldn't kiss there butt, why?  I would just do it on your own and go for child support even though he don't want to be around. HE is obligated to pay for that baby if it is his.  There are many things out there to help you make it as a single mother until you find someone who wants to share a life with you and your baby.  Your family will get over it they all do and hopefully it wont take they to you delivering it. Once anyone lays eyes on your child they wont be able to turn there back on you.  Just stick in there because if he loved you the way you should be loved then he would be on your side 100% and wouldn't care what his parents care or think.

Answer 4

Ok, dear, s***w the 'making the family happy' right now because as soon as they find out you are pregnant they are really gonna be pissed. We are talking high school c**p vs. a baby. Forget the 'he won't see me anymore unless I talk to his parents..." Tell him you are having his baby. Right now, none of that other c**p matters. at all. period. Tell your parents. They will freak. But you have to tell them. They are your love, comfort, and support. They will help you and love you through this, once they get over being really angry and mad and hurt, they still love you. Tell your bf. He may hang around, he may not...that's a chance you take when having unmarried s*x at a young age. Either way, he needs to know. Tell your girlfriends, tell a counselor, someone who can support you in addition to your family. I think you are right to feel alone right now. But you don't have to be alone, tell your parents and let them start to get over it, and lean on some girlfriends for support or go to a free family counseling center and talk to someone. You can do it. Eventually you won't be alone, you'll have your family's support, it may take a while though. But it will be ok. Talk to someone at your church, too, if you have a church you go to.

Answer 5

umm im pretty sure the once ur pregnant u change with all this hormonal things in ur body soo u become emotional. and sometimes depressed. its totally natural!  

Answer 6

My goodness, it sounds like you have a lot going on.  I'm sorry about the loss of your first pregnancy--that is a very hard thing, even with a lot of support from your mate.  

Your boyfriend's parents don't sound like the kind of people who will be helpful or even good for the baby to be around.  If your boyfriend didn't stand up for you then, he never will.

You don't say how old you are, but if you are still living at home, I'm guessing you are a teen...your parents need to be told as soon as possible.

You have options, such as having the baby and keeping it, giving it up for adoption (hard choice, but may be best for the baby, to be raised by caring parents who can't have their own baby), letting your parents adopt and raise, if you don't feel you can and they want to, or lastly, the option of terminating the pregnancy.

Perhaps you should consult your phone book for a listing for Planned Parenthood or a Pregnancy Crisis Center--both places will be able to give  you free  counseling, explain all your options, and may even be willing to meet with you when you tell your parents.

May you find some peace and wisdom, and make a choice that is best for you and your baby.   Good luck!