I am pregnant but the father was cheating on his g/f with me?

Question

we were together for 6 yrs...we broke up and he went directly back to his ex mainly b/c he is a financial wreck & no where else to go. we hooked up a couple of times and had s*x (so he was cheating on her...i still really care about him). we havnt talked in a couple of weeks but i found out im prego to him (i havn't been w/any other man in the 6 years). How do I tell him and what do you think will happen? i can't do this on my own.

please no immature ignorant comments from. just looking for advice.

he wants kids really really bad. and he tells me that he doesnt' feel the same about her as he does with me. he was begging to come back but i wouldn't let him.

Answer 1

If you didn't want him back you shouldn't have lead him on. You being pregnant with his child is just going to make the situation worse. Of course he's going to want to be with the mother of his children (lucky you... a lot of guys wouldn't even accept responsibility). You've got to let him know if you're 100% sure the baby is his. You should let him be involved with the pregnancy and the baby even if you don't want to be with him.

Answer 2

You just need to sit him down and tell him. If he wants

kinds bad like you say then he probably wont be too upset.

Answer 3

I know the feeling you must be very confused right now however, you have been with this guy 6 years and now you have an on off realtionship, besides the fact he cheated on his g/f with you that is not a problem of yours, concidering you been with him 6 years surely you should feel as if you could tell him anything and trust him with what you say, my advice is to come clean tell him face to face while alone, make sure you dont make him decide there and then what he wants to do however do state you cant wait around forever and makesure it is both what you want. Weather you and him get back togehter is besides the point aslong as you know you and him can both support and love your child the rest is basically down to nature GOOD LUCK

Answer 4

let him know that you are pregnant with his baby. you need to sit down and decide what you want to do. I would suggest getting a paternity test to prove he is the father...not that you don't know, but to prove it to him. after he is established as the father you can sue for child support regardless of wether he wants anything to do with you and the baby or not.

Answer 5

That is a difficult situation.  I actually went through something similar myself  when I was in my early 20s.  I had been with a man for 3 1/2 years, was convinced we would end up married, and instead we ended up breaking up.  He started dating someone else, but never stopped calling me and telling me that he still loved me, but he wasn't really ready to recommit. We started seeing one another again, even though I knew he was still dating somone else (not my proudest moment, but when you have been that 'in love' with someone for years it is easy to ignore your gut thoughts of 'this is wrong' when he is telling you how much he loves you) Anyway, I got the same line from him: he loved me, wanted me back, he really wanted to have kids, etc.  He even broke up with the girlfriend for a time, but started seeing her again behind my back (probably saying the same things he had said to me)  Then I found out I was pregnant. He ended up telling me the most I could expect from him was "a check once a month and every other weekend."  I ended up having a miscarriage at 14 weeks, which he barely acknowledged, and was quite devestated, even though I wanted nothing to do with him at that point.  He married the other woman the next year.  

SO..sorry for the long tale, but just want you to know I understand the difficult position you are in. You can only be honest with him, and yourself, about what you really want, how you feel and see what happens.  If you truly feel that the two of you could work things out together, with a baby, without the other woman in the picture, and if he is willing to immediately come clean with her and end that relationship, it may work.  But that is a lot of ifs...

I wish you luck.