I am quite confused... opinions please?

Question

Okay, so here's the deal. There is this guy at school I shall call Chad. We're both seniors, he's student body president, varsity football team, really nice guy. I am student body vice president, varsity track.. point is we're both really outgoing and involved. However, he has a reputation for being a big flirt. for a lot of our years in high school he's had some kind of girlfriend, and i think he's pretty experienced. meanwhile, i've never had a boyfriend or been kissed. most girls over the years have fallen under his spell and crushed on him for a bit. i have for a few weeks last year, but nothing huge. except for now. 3 weeks back into school and i'm completely liking him. and i think he likes me too, we've been flirting through text and kind of at school and when we've hung out outside of school with groups of friends. I really do think he would be a dream to date, but when i truly think about it, i can think of 20 reasons why he'd be a good boyfriend and 20 reasons why he's be a bad boyfriend. plus i know plenty of my friends would disapprove of a relationship. i am confused as to whether i should follow my heart or be sensible. any suggestions?

(sorry i know this is long, i just had to get it off my chest.)

Answer 1

What you need to do is follow your heart. Im 15 and I had never had a real boyfriend until I started talking to this guy named Jesse. Over the summer.. he just graduated and he had been cheated on.. and he was depressed. On top of all that.. his dad recently passed and little did he know his grandpa was about to pass too. I talked to him on myspace some.. and eventually on the phone... and we became the best of friends.. and we even went to the fair together.. then one day I told him I had to tell him something.. which i was going to tell him I was in love with him.. but he said No and told me he was in love with me.. and now.. we couldnt be happier.. he is now in the marines.. and all we can do is write.. but he will be home in october.. (:

All i can say is take a risk.. I did and I have never been happier. All my friends think im crazy being a freshman and dating a marine.. but I know in my heart its meant to be.

(:

good luck .  

Answer 2

well, you have to do what you think is right. if your friends do not approove than that's there problem. you have to find out things for yourself. now, if your having doubts as to if you should get involved with him or not. really only you know those reasons why, and the reasons why you should not. are the reasons no, founded or hear say? what you need to do is not rationalize it so much. odviously you like him. and you want to find out more. why not hang out with him and really see if he is someone you want to be with. why does it have to be he has to be my boyfirend, why can't you just go on dates with him until both of you decide it should be exclusive?

Answer 3

follow your heart, but take it slow. Be friends and get to know each other well before doing anything romantic to avoid being hurt by a more experienced guy.