I am ready to have my first baby, but my husband thinks we aren't "financially" ready, What should i do?

Question

We have been together for over 3 years. I raised my brothers and sisters. I do daycare for a living and all i have ever wanted was to start a family of my own. We are pretty young, but the way i see it is...do it while your young and still have the energy. He says he is ready to be a father but doesnt think we can do it financially. I tell him if we wait until we are financially stable we will never have a family! Please help!

Answer 1

Tell him that your ready with all of that experience you can raise a child. Try to comprimise with him and see if you two can work this out.

Answer 2

He makes sense.  Raising your own child is different than helping your brothers and sisters

Answer 3

You need to find the compromise.  Ask your husband to sit down with you and set out a plan so you can see when exactly he sees you being ready to foot the bill for raising your child.  Maybe he has a point ... at least he is mature enough to say he thinks you are not financially prepared yet.  It is better to work together so you will be united and happy when your baby comes.  Hang in there and try to work together with him.  It sounds like you will be great parents, and even the best parents need to reign one another in from time to time!

Answer 4

First, it takes TWO yeses and ONE no.

If he's not ready, having the child will not make him more ready.

But i'm not saying  you need to sit around and see if maybe he ever feels ready. Make sure he knows what you want... especially if it's that important to you. For example, maybe he says we're not financially ready yet... you might tell him "having a baby is extremely important to me. I want a baby in the next two years." If he's not willing to give a time frame... then i think it's time for you to consider if you'll be happy if he never changes his mind.

good luck with that

Answer 5

I say respect his wishes. You will only put your relationship at risk by making this decision on your own. Make him a deal to reassess your financial situation in about a year.