I am really being challenged by someone in my family, any advice?

Question

My sister is really the most selfish, self centered, cold, manipulative and just plain ugliest person I think I've ever had to deal with. If you were to ask other members of my family they would agree with me. I have had to let her live with me for a while, and I am having a hard time dealing with her attitude, and behavior. I really want to do the right thing, but am struggling....part of me really wants to send her packing. I also recognize that because of the way she is, she deals with alot of pain, and rejection in her life, and relationships. She is older than me, and would not be receptive to helpful suggestions, she's not gonna change. I really do pity her. Would anyone offer me some suggestions on how I can overcome this challenge?

Answer 1

I think you should look at yourself.

Good Luck.

Answer 2

In not so obvious ways maybe try helping with her with looking for a job and maybe make it seem like it was her idea. Try to get her active and in things she likes to do so she is out of your hair and maybe she can get her own place.

Answer 3

Sounds like you need to hold a little meeting with her and set some rules into place... she needs to know the limits of your hospitality... including how long she is welcome to live there.

There really needs to be a limit imposed on the duration of her stay or else she will stay there forever. Urge her to find her own way out from under your roof.

When you are up to a couple of weeks before the proposed move-out date, you need to serve her with a written notice that she needs to move. Get ready to file for a forcible eviction down at the county courthouse if necessary.

All this is assuming you cannot coach her about turning around her crummy attitudes.