I am really sad because (See details)?

Question

Ok Basically here is my life story.

Born and Raised in City A (Kept out for privacy purposes)

Was in school there for 11 years, from K-4-10th grade.

Made lifelong friendships there, most of whom I have known since 1st grade.

Played High School Basketball there with a great coach, teammates, and fans.

My Dad is studying to become a doctor, and for anyone not familiar with the process, you have to take a 3 year "residency" (basically paid training) wherever you are invited.

He gets it in City B.

My family and I move to City B, after I spent my sister and I spent our whole life in City A, with my parents living there for almost 25 years.

It is now about 2 months after the move, and I am EXTREMELY DEPRESSED. School doesn't help me, my family doesn't help me, the only thing I have is God, but its just too sad.

I left behind great friends, teachers, coaches, 2 uncles, 2 aunts, 5 cousins, 2 grandparents, my girlfriend, etc.

Is there any possible way to get my mind off of it? Because I don't to do anything dumb.

Please no rude answers, thank you.

Answer 1

That kinda sucks! But you'll make friends. It'll be a little harder for you to make friends because you're older, like i think you're a junior now, but you'll make a lot of friends! It's good to make new friends. You can have new and keep the old friends. And whenever you visit your aunts/uncles/cousins in City A, you can also visit your friends. Are you still dating your girlfriend? How far is City A from City B?

Answer 2

it sounds like you are just homesick, but after you get warmed up to city b you wont feel as bad.

Answer 3

It'll take some time...especially when you already knew so many others elsewhere.  Just breathe in, and out and take it day by day.  Try talking to new people, find a club or two with things you're interested in and go to it.  I'm sure in a month or so, you'll be okay...you may not have as many friends as you did before, but just smile and be open and I'm sure you'll meet some amazing people.  

If things don't change soon, don't hesitate to see a doctor...there is such a thing as depression, and meds do help--I know from personal experience.  (just don't take that the wrong way)

Answer 4

Are you too far away to go visit your other city you left? Maybe your mom and da would allow you from time to time to go stay with your grandparents so you can connect with your friends and gf and family.

Answer 5

Hey Fez, tough break!

It may seem like the end of the world right now but please remember that it’s only been two months.  It may take some time till you get introduced to a new circle of friends and also have some teachers accept you.  In my past experience it usually took about five months till things started to change for me… new friends, new experiences, new everything’s.  In the meanwhile try and keep in contact with those back home but don’t focus too much on how much you miss them.  You’ll need to put as much energy into finding new friends as you do missing the old ones.  Try and stick it out Fez… I know it may seem like the end of the world with no resolve in sight but in reality this is only a moment in time.  Good luck brother!

Answer 6

How far away is city A from city B? Try to take regular trips  back to city A to see your friends.. If it is too far, then search the papers for things to do in your new city. Any art exhibits, karaoke nights, intramural sports, or sports or clubs through your new school, a church group. Finding new activities at your new city will help you find new friends, occupy your time, and take your mind off how much you miss your old friends and your family back in city A.

Answer 7

laugh a lot

Answer 8

I don't know how far city A and B are from each other but maybe you could visit your friends in the holidays.  At least it would give you something to look forward to.  Also, in the meantime, you could try making new friends.  Many people change schools and have to start over.  You don't forget your old friends but it is good also to have some new friends.  Also, you could try doing what you like doing.  You must have had interests before (apart from sports).  Maybe go shopping, read a really good book or anything else you enjoy.  Speak to your old friends on the phone or chat to them online.  Also, it has only been 2 months.  It could be a year or two before you feel better about the place.  It is still all new to you and doesn't feel like home yet.  Give it some time.  Also, by your question it seems like you are depressed due to leaving people behind rather than not liking the new city.  So try and find some positives.  Are the people there nice?  Is the area nice?  Think about it and you may see some positives.  If you can't change the situation then you shouldn't keep worrying about it.  Also, keep yourself motivated.  Go to school, come home and do any homework and then treat yourself by calling a friend or doing something you enjoy.  Also, is your sister depressed about the situation too?  If not, then figure out why not and follow her example.  If she is, it may be a good idea to talk to her about it.  It may make you feel just a little better.  

Answer 9

i just moved to a boarding school across the country from my home town yesterday. i thought it was going to suck but i just started talking to people and making new friends :D remember, everything happens for a reason :D

Answer 10

Honestly, I don't think your going to be able to get your mind of the things you left behind in City A. What you have to do, is just try to enjoy meeting new people and new opportunities.

Throughout it all that you are still going to be sad, but that is normal. You have a legitimate reason to be upset. But, thats no reason to stop you from exploring and discovering the new possibilities that have come from moving to City B.

Having God is the best thing you could have right now. Changes that extreme are not easy on anyone, and God is their to help you through it. I'm guessing you probably already know that, but, I feel I need to reaffirm your trust in him. It's always going to be hard, but, over time i guarantee things will get better.    

Answer 11

you accept that life is filled with changes and you look at living in your new city as an adventure.  A new place to get to know, a chance to make new friends.  You played basketball at your old school, try out for the team in your new city.  

It's an adventure.  Keep looking at it like that.  Besides, you most likely will leave for college in 3 or 4 years and then you will be moving yet again but without your family.

email and call your old friends and family.  make new friends.