I am scared of s*x what can I do?

Question

I am 24 yrs old g*y guy and have never had penetrative s*x but just the cuddling, rubbing and massaging stuff. I know that guys will not want a relationship with me unless I am able to have s*x with them but I have this immense fear for contracting HIV and a whole list of other unknown STIs (despite the condoms). I am scared to even be naked or touch their privates directly. I have been single for years and realized that as i grow older my friends are all in couple and felt very lonely and left out. There are many times where I was interested to know someone but because of my fear I told that I am scared and would like to just get to known them so well to a point that I can start trusting them but god knows how long that will take and guys wont wait. I have heard enough stories about guys being unfaithful, sleeping around while the bf is away for the weekend, having an open relationships and endless situations that I consider "risky" for me to be in. I so wanted a relationship but on the other hand cannot imagine being betrayed both psychically and emotionally. Should I just stay single forever or is there someone out there that are "clean" and honest and willing to guide me through each step patiently? I feel like a loser:(

Answer 1

There is a kind and loving person out there for you. Don't compromise your integrity because of things you have witnessed or heard. You will meet the right person for you who indeed will be patient and not just in the relationship for the s*x. We all have the opportunity to manifest what  we want, including the kind of relationship we want. You may want to read information on manifesting what we truly desire  (check out Wayne Dyer or Esther and Jerry Hicks, just to name a few). Know that like attracts like. If you are insecure, you will attract someone who is also insecure, so you may want to work on that. If you are patient, kind and loving, you will attract someone with those qualities.

Best Wishes to You.

Answer 2

Oh my gosh you just describe me only I am a girl and straight....lol

I know exactly how you feel! If only I could help.