I am shy...what should I do?

Question

okay so, im a very shy girl and i have only a few good friends and NO guy friends! ....i think my shyness gets in the way of gaining more friends....im a little okay (more open) while talking to girls (tho theres a lot of space 4 improvement) but when it comes to guys I get extremely nervous and SHY....i get concious n think "wat if i say the wrong thing and look like a fool n he nvr talks to me again" PLS help!!

If possible, a step by step guide to overcoming shyness (w/ gurls n guys) will be just gr8!! thnx

Answer 1

cookie puss:

put yourself out there!

who cares what everyone else thinks as long as ur having fun and making the most out of life because when u look back on your life in 60 years you are going to regret itt

Answer 2

i had to think about this one because I wanted to give you advice that was helpful not just stupid and textbook-ish.

I think the best thing to do is feel really pretty. i know that sounds stupid but if you wear your favorite outfit and really spend time on your hair and makeup, so that when you look in the mirror you feel hot, that helps

Also, talking to a guy with some lines already made up in your head can help

Best of all I think approaching a guy with some friends around you is good because they will fill any awkward silences you might have.

Be yourself. if your not comfortable around boys yet then don't worry. It will happen one day.  

Answer 3

ok, l think i can help you, add me in your list and start talking to me, lets be friends and i'll try to help u to overcome with this, just practice with me how u talk wid guys !!! ok ?

:))

goodluck!

Answer 4

I know how you feel. I am not necessarily shy, but I avoid guys anyway. They make me sort of nervous because I don't understand them as much as I understand girls! But recently I have found just a simple way to talk to guys more. I don't know if this will work for you, but trying to talk to guys younger than me helps. Usually they have some sort of hero worship thing going on, so it's a good way to practice flirting. Sorry I couldn't tell you a step-by-step guide.  

Answer 5

From my own experience, I know exactly how you feel.

You have to realize, that there are BILLIONS of men/ women in the world, and if you happen to stutter in front of one of them, you are not doomed to live alone for the rest of your life.

Remember, it is completely normal to be shy, and the only way to get rid of it, is to go out and practice. Just know that there is plenty of room for improvement in the world, but it requires you to take things head on. Go out with one of your friends, and try being spontaneous!

Why knows, maybe the guy you are worried about will find you cute in your shyness.

The more and more you do this, the more easier it will become.

You may also want to think of it this way: In 1000 years, who is going to care if you "didn't look that cool" that one time.

Good Luck! You're in the same boat as most!

Answer 6

.....um probly just try to talk to guys u know at school or ur girl friends guy friends.......i have the same problem.....exept with girls half the time

Answer 7

OK

this is what i say

all girls are shy and think "wat if i say the wrong thing and he never talks to me again"

ive been dating this same guy for two years and i always think that

but you never do say anything bad

and you never make yourself look bad or stupid

just talk the way you are

don't try to change or anything

i bet there is a guy that likes you for who you are not who you want to change into.

I'm really shy too and i have a best friend that speaks her mind and is really loud and not shy at all

and she doesn't get anyone at all

SO being shy is good

don't try to change!!!

your great the way you are!!!

Answer 8

i think we're the same! but i have lots of guy-friend. i can chatting or msging with them but i can't and dont feel comfortable when talking to them LIVE. so in my opinion, you should try to be friendly with guy on the internet first. you wont feel much 'shy' when you're chatting with them online because they cannot see you. try it first ok. it works for me and i think it will works for you either.

all da best,k!