I am so confused, please help me???

Question

My name is Mary and I'm 14 years old (I'll be 15 in November). I have an older brother who just turned 16 and his name is Braydon. Ever since I was about 12 I've had feelings for my brother, but I didn't really know what kind of feelings they were. Now that I've grown older so have my feelings.

I'm love with my brother! I am just really attracted to him, both physically and emotionally. I mean, I like him because he's so kind to me and he's sweet and gentle, and he's always so helpful. And I am sort of attracted to his body too...sexually. I fantasize being with him all the time; being married and having kids and everything. I do this a lot. Whenever I'm around him I just want him to hold me close and tell me he loves me.

I haven't felt this way about any other boy before. But I'm still really confused about all of this...I know it's really bad to be in love with your brother but I can't help it...he's stolen my heart. Please help me, what should I do???!!!

(And please don't bash me! I'm so confused and worried and everything, I don't need hateful comments!)

Answer 1

I have to admit, that it is very strange. And a bit of me thinks that this could be a joke post. If it is, then you are very strange. If this isn't a joke, then I have to feel very sorry for you.

But you have to blame the hormones, hormones can meddle with the brain and confuse your judgment when it comes to relationships, and in years time you may be able to look back on it and laugh. At 14 you are stuck in the middle of a hormonal rampage, and it can make your mind jump to all sorts of strange situations that you will look back on in years to come and wonder what the h**l was going on in your mind.

You are going to have to accept that it will never happen, it is illegal, it is wrong, and is very weird. And I can say with almost 100% certainty that he won't feel the same way about you. You need to distance yourself from him slightly, and really examine his bad points, anything to detach yourself from the current image you have of him. Try and force yourself to take an interest in other guys in your life, just to take your mind off of your brother.

You do really have to detach yourself, I am not going to bash you because you are obviously confused and worried, but it has to be said that it is very strange. And if this is a trick post (which I really hope it isn't) it is a pathetic trick to pull.

Good luck with everything.