I am so confused, what do I do?

Question

I have a male friend that wants to come and visit me from out of state, I am at a relatives place out of state due to circumstances that I won't go into, but we are both married, I am not attracted to him but he insists on coming. I am afraid that something will happen like a car wreck or health issues and have to call his spouse to come and get him...

Answer 1

Just because he insists does not mean you have to see him.  It sounds like the person is too controlling.

Answer 2

He can't insist on doing anything if it is your place he wants to stay.  Tell him straight up that he can't stay with you due to your current living situation.  And if you are having a friendship that your spouses, especially his, don't know about each other, then I think you are in more than a friendship with this person.  Don't be inappropriate.

Answer 3

Well, the thing is, is this person a good friend? or some guy you met on the internet... oOOOooo both married, hmm... interesting.. it can go both ways.. and if your husband found this out, hed be worried that you are seeing another guy.. really... you should cut off all ties with this friend unless you already gave him your address... HAHAHHAHAHAHHAHAAHAH...

If he keeps insisting, the only reason a guy would keep insisting is because he thinks he can put you on a list so he can get you when you are most vulnurable, Trust me i know how men thinks.. If he was a friend, hed probably ask to meet you and your husband... Otherwise... OOOOOOOOO shame on you... HAHAHAHAHHAHAAH..

think about it, its not confusion that you have... you are worried that this might be a problem.

Be careful....

Answer 4

my idea is, if your friend really wants to come over, you could ask him to come with his spouse, if possible, but don't let him come without, and if you don't know him in real life, don't let him come at all.