I am so lost. What can I do?

Question

Me and my ex broke-up about almost 4 weeks ago. We are trying to be friends but long story short he dated a very horrible girl and I tried to tell him. Now he will hardly speak to me or notice me. But I still love him. It's so wrong to but I can't help it. I still dream about him and want him and think about him 24/7. A few weeks back he told me he still loved me and stuff but I don't know if he still means it. I'd do whatever it takes to get him back again. But I can't tell if he still likes me. Any ideas or advice? It would be very appreciated.

Answer 1

I think its almost impossible to be friends with an ex. Always there is someone who still has feelings. You can get over him faster if you let him go and if it is meant to be he will come back to you.

Answer 2

Just watch LOST.  It's awesome!

Answer 3

just tell him , you still love him and ask him if he would mind to go ( the movies, dinner, etc) and talk about it .. but all that can be done is to tell him how you feel ...(if i broke up with my ex-  and then she asks me out or tells me she still loves me i would defently go back with her or at least  talk about it)   i hope i helped =)

Answer 4

You know, I really hate to play games but I think you need to play it cool here and let him come to you. I think he still loves you too but if you let it be known that you want him back it will put the kibosh on his wanting you back. I know this sounds totally grade school but I think I'm right on this one.

Answer 5

Please do not push yourself on him. If he likes you you will know it.  The more you try to push yourself on him the more he will push himself away.

Please do not do whatever it takes to get him back because you will lose your self respect.

Anne

Answer 6

jus talk 2 him about it and see wat he says i had the same promblem but if he rele cares about u n loves u then itll all work out one of ma friends talked me n to tellin ma ex i still love him n all he could say is ok but it mite b different he could rele love u it wouldnt hurt to ask him

Answer 7

My advice get over him. Believe me you can do way better. You probably feel like you love him but in time you will move on. If he's sending you mixed signals then he probably isn't sure what he wants

Answer 8

first of all, how old are you i am guessing 15-19. darling there will be many heart breaks and the most you can do is to break it down to him the way you truley wish you could express your thoughts to him. instead of asking us... ask him. ask deep questions get to the bottom of it for yourself so you can stop tormenting yourself. boys WILL be boys especially at young ages. and sometimes darling... they never stop. great human beings are out there but don't torment yourself clinging onto somethin you may not be 100 percent sure on

Answer 9

I say tell him exactly how you feel if he doesn't feel the same way it wasn't meant to be if he does it was!

Answer 10

If you truly still love him and you're 100% sure he still loves you then try and slowly ease into getting back with him. Don't rush and if what you both feel is actually missing being with eachother and not the concept of having someone then all should work out.

Answer 11

my advice is to always be straight up with people...always go down swinging and knowing you did the best you could...live with no regrets so don't let time slip away..talk to him..tell him how you feel and don't hold back..good luck :]

Answer 12

  You should explain to him that you told him about the other girl because you really cared about him as a friend also, not to try break them up, but to try prevent him from getting hurt.  How about going to a nice movie together and see if the spark can re-ignite.

Answer 13

Forget him and move on you can't ever go back.Once the damage is done it is never the same.Also if she was that bad make him be tested for std'sYou don't want them.Good luck.

Answer 14

i remember when u told this story haha give it time girl!

Answer 15

I've definitely been in your shoes and it sucks... no one can really tell you what to do, because no matter what you'll talk to him or miss him or something of that sort. you kind of just have to figure it out on your own, you'll cry a lot, but you'll be okay. you might want to leave him alone, because he'll probably start to miss you once you're not there. it's hard, but it might work. either that or let things fall into place... I've been having the same 'issue' for the past year 1/2.

Answer 16

well all i can really say is talk to him and hope he talks back....guys are pretty stuborn....(well some are)

is he still with this girl?  

Answer 17

Take some time away from each other. Both of you are going through a difficult time. Breaking up is hard for both people even if they expect it. Both of you are healing and that's nothing you can rush.

Also, don't try to be best friends, since you'll only get hurt if he talks about dating someone else.

After some time off, you'll realize either you do like each other, or maybe it's just not meant to be.

And remember, don't run after a bus, a train, or a lover. There will be another one coming along shortly.

Answer 18

Move on. If it were meant to be, it would be happening. Don't keep making excuses. Face the facts. If he wanted to be with you, he would be.

Answer 19

You need to sit him down, and have a good conversation and make him listen to reason. Let him know you still feel for him, and do your best

Answer 20

Yes... This  has happened to most woman in America and probably the Galaxy as we know it! You are stuck in something called the "X-Triangle".

The honest, (well not honest but helpful thing) to do is make nice with your Ex. get back in good with him and wait out this bad relationship. If she is horrible, he will figure it out eventually.And if they walk down the isle together, "SO BE IT"!

This way you will be "waiting in the wings with open arms for his STUPID and SMASHED heart". It is a lot like sticking your finger in a electrical socket. You know it is stupid but you want to find out what happens. When you get shocked, you learn.... STUPID DON'T DO THAT AGAIN! Your Ex dating this horrible girl, is him sticking his whole body in a electrical socket. Boy, that is going to hurt!

Now here is what you should do. I know you like/love your Ex... but you should go out and find a fellow.This will DRIVE your Ex Ballistic if he has any feelings for you.

Answer 21

if hes gna forget about u in less than a month or so, hes really not worth your troubles. forget about him. hes not woth it. seriously