I am so ready to just give up hope. emcouraging words please ?

Question

22 have 4 and 5 year old married divorced and now married again husband cant make up mind if he want a baby ( his first) or not. i want a baby that i can have with me all the time my kids live with their dad ( please no comments about that) their dad is sick and they need to know him. I graduated beauty school and got my license then messed up a girls hair after i told her it was going to fall out. I quit my job and friday is my last day i am having trouble finding another job in a different career field cause i have no self esteem or confidence that i can do anything. my mom never tought me how to do anything and my husband makes me feel like a horrible wife and mother cause i am always depressed cause i dont ahve my kids even though i know i am doing the right think letting them know their dad before he passes away. I dont clean my house well cause i am always depressed and just getting up to go to work is hard. and having my husband say he wants a baby then after i take out my birth control that is atleast $500 to get back he says he doesnt want a baby now. I feel like i am crazy and am just ready to give up can someone please give me some sort of encouragement!!!!!

Answer 1

Here is the problem, you were young when you had kids, therefore, you missed out on your own development from age 17-22...those are big-time growth and development years.  Hope is not lost, most girls go through periods of sadness..we almost all have "meantal mini-dramas" through our 20's...  You'll come to realize in a few years who you are...you are still growing meantally...and that is OK.  

Here's a start - read an inspirational book  -  Sylvia Browne writes incredible books and is great for soul-searching and understanding of one's self.

  

Exercise/eat well

Spend quality time with your family/friends

Do some volunteer work for the disabled or for kids or maybe apply at a veterinary clinic...something that makes you feel good about the things you are doing to help someone else.

Have some YOU time - do something nice for yourself that you enjoy.

last - be thankful for the gifts you have been given...and stop being so hard on yourself, let yourself grow into the woman you will become...  stop being so negative...start thinking positive thoughts.   ps- don't let anyone else's words hurt you.

  

Answer 2

don't give up hope.we are living in the age of grace.the only REAL hope is in the glory of the resurrected Christ.the apostle Paul tells us everything as he was told by the Lord Himself AFTER His resurrection.search online "bible concordance",enter the word"hope".many references are contained in Paul's letters(Romans thru Hebrews).Also,go to www.lesfeldick.org.Les Feldick's Ph.# is there and you can call him most days. he can show you scriptures which may apply to your situation.true hope comes from "faith plus nothing".God bless you and please call Les Feldick.

Answer 3

your husband is right its not the time to have a baby when your going through this.  plus you have two kids and your only 22 come on...  

Answer 4

you need to think of encouraging words and think more positive you should see a marriage counselor and tell them your problem they can help a lot better than i can, but never, no matter how hard it gets, never take your own life ok. and job wise maybe go back to college. it is never to late to go back.  

Answer 5

I can understand your situation very personally, but from a different perspective. Your not crazy at all, everybody hits tough times (although it is a bit kooky to put it all on Answers, but why not? ;)) and it's just a matter of how you deal with them. For some people, it's better to talk it out with somebody... Anyone, actually. Whether it's a lifelong friend, a friendly face, your husband... Just talk to somebody. Remember that life isn't about finding yourself, but about CREATING yourself. Keep on going, strong and forward. If not for yourself, do it for your family. Stay strong and God bless.

Answer 6

When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.