I am so sad my 16 year old son is taking drugs.?

Question

I feel real sad my son is taking all kinds of drugs. Salvia, Ritalin, Weed and Alcohol to name a few. It really snuck up on me and my wife. I suspected for a while but not to this extent. He use to be so loving, caring and friendly. Now everything is the opposite. We are going to be taking him to Drug Counselor next week. I wish it was today but no counselor was able to see him until next week. I always thought we had such a good son. I am really sad for him. He really does not understand how this is effecting his family. I am writing because I really am unsure how to handle this whole mess.

Answer 1

rehab next time

Answer 2

I'm sorry that this happened with your son. Just be there and support him and try to stay strong. He can get through this as long as he has your love and support.

Answer 3

Weed in moderation is quite okay. But everything else will cause trauma down the road- bad, bad, bad.

Answer 4

Rehab dude rehab. Its better to stop it now then try and battle it later. Scare the sh*t out of him early or it will be too late.

Answer 5

You do have a good son, he has just made some really dumb decisions!

You and your wife need to be honest with him about how his drug use makes you feel and how it is breaking your family apart.  

Try to take him to talk with other people that have used drugs (drug free now) so they can tell him their story.  Maybe if he realizes all that a person can loose he'll want to stop.

Also try a drug rehab, one where he just can't walk out of.

Last but not least, you need to be there for him every step of the way.  He needs to know that the 2 of you still love him very much!!!

No put downs or making him feel like he isnt worth anything, that will only make him want to use more.

I hope your son gets better.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

well what is done is done ..you justy have to find away to help him get out of the situation..dont abuse him or yell at him because then his gonna want to do it more..i know its hard and very sad..just be strong..ask him why was he doing drugs..and whatever the answer is be there for him

Answer 7

Is your son a fan of 80s heavy metal at all?

No no no, I'm not saying that to BLAME the music.

I'm just saying, if he likes Motley Crue or has any respect at all for 80's metal, buy him a copy of Nikki Sixx's book, the Heroin Diaries. Its stuff he actually wrote during the year when his heroin addiction became the most unbearable.

Even tho we hope your son has never done heroin, the book has still helped thousands of people over come their drug problems.

Let your son read it, it might change his life.

Answer 8

You do have a good son!  And I think that "drugs" (these are pretty amateur drugs, so count yourself lucky in that respect) is often a symptom of a larger issue -- that issue being teenager-hood.  He's a sixteen-year-old boy, and drugs or not, he's unlikely to be the sweet, confiding, snuggly boy that he was just yesterday.  Worse, many 16-year-old males (drugs or not) are going to be moody, disgruntled and generally pissy.   He's going to go up to his room and lock himself in and look at you like he loathes you.  It's not the substances that are making him this way, though they may exacerbate the problem for you and your wife.  They're probably his way of dealing with whatever stress and anxiety he may have, problems over fitting in at school, feeling like he doesn't measure up academically, whatever... or the drugs are just general experimentation that he probably thinks is fine.  In my experience, taking him to a Drug Counselor may not be a good first step.  Start with talking to him and asking him to see a regular counselor -- or if he would like, do some family counseling to demonstrate to him that he can talk to you about things and he doesn't feel like he's being singled out (teenage boys hate that).  The counselor can also bring up drug use and let him know all of the consequences that come with it.  Also, set stricter boundaries for him and make sure he knows the letter of the law (YOUR law).  If he really ends up with a drug problem -- you notice that he's losing weight rapidly, looking dirty or haggard, and not showing up to school or his grades are tanking, then you might take him to the drug counselor.    

Anyway, I've been through this, and both of my siblings have.  My parents (with some trial and error) handled it well, and the three of us grew out of our behaviors.  Most kids will.  It's a hard time for your son -- high school ain't easy for a guy.  Just try and be there with him through this, and he'll come out on the other side as a more mature young man.

Answer 9

i agree totaly with stary the advice is exalant go with that trust me