I am so shy with my bf that i cannot look him straight in the eye, especially during s*x.?

Question

I can for a bit, but i look away, then back again repeatedly. I can look him in the eye in the dark, but even then i have to force myself. He knew that i did once, and i was so embarrassed that he knew. i dunno why, i just feel so submissive, i guess. I dunno.

I can look at other people, but anyone that ive ever been attracted to, nope. Sometimes guys think that im not interested when they stare and i look away out of shyness. Any advice? Im 21 so im not a kid anymore but this sure makes me feel like one.

Answer 1

I feel exactly the same way, and it happens to me aswell.  I know why though, it's because when you are with them you feel very excited and you really like that person, so you are kinda worrying and nervous some how even for no reason.  Tha can also be taken care of, you need to focus not on the fact that you cant look him in his eyes but how much you're enjoying this and then automatically you will forget and you won't even realize you're looking at him.  Just relax and enjoy yourself and everything will turn out fine, and by that i mean that you won't even think about the fact that you're staring at his eyes or something like that.

-hope i helped!! : )

Answer 2

okay practice u already have s*x with him and u like it so tell u what u become more aggressive with him, u kiss him, become more dominant just a bit and look at him more do this step by step things will change

Answer 3

Being shy is the pits. Once you've got an emotional involvement with the guy, you're even more exposed in some ways, so it makes some sense.

If you can, try to explain to him that lots of eye contact is just too intense for you. Then find other ways to make contact with him - hold hands, hug him, find out what scents he likes, even sing to him if you can (hey, I'm being serious). Whatever works. There are things you can't do (for now), so look for other ways to reach out.

Maybe, try asking him to close his eyes. Would that make it easier?

Counseling doesn't work for everyone, but it might work for you. If you think there's a chance, give it a shot.

Answer 4

make out with him and that might make u more confident

Answer 5

you are a kid@heart