I am so stressed, please help!!

Question

1st of all i have to go back to my home country and my boyfriend is staying in the uk for another 4months, so we are going to do long distance. secondly, i am a really anxious flyer and dont know how i am going to deal with the stress of parting with my boyfriend and then having to go on a long haul of a flight!!i get so anxious i get panic attacks on the plane. i am so scared! i know it might be rediculous to some people, but not to me. can someone give me good adviceon how to just be calm about the big change in my life.

Answer 1

Everybody is stressed.  However, you could see a psychologist.  

Answer 2

First thing a little bit of relationship advice.

are you going to go back to him sometime in the future.

ex. plans to live together ect.

If yes

then no stress there are lots of options to keep your relationship alive. I did the long term relationship thing with my boyfriend for 4 years. (college) we are fine now and happily married. HOWEVER it does take more time and effort than a regular relationship where you get to see each other all the time. If both of you are willing to have open communication about everything then that is great you can do it.

HOWEVER

If there is no time line dedicated to when you are going to see each other again then it is ALWAYS best to end it now so no one cheats on each other and gets emotionally scarred. think about your situation rationally and what you expect from your relationship. Try to emotionally detach yourself from the situation and think about what you would say to a friend if they asked your advice.

ALSO

about the airplane. Dramamine often makes people drowsy and calms the tummy you should sleep through most of the trip. ALWAYS test this out before you go so in case of allergic reaction you can get treated in a hospitable instead of on a plane.  

Plus

don't worry about the world ending tomorrow in Australia its already over.  

Don't sweat the small stuff  

Answer 3

If stress is affecting your life in any way, you might want to consider the factors that can cause it. When you are faced with a lot of stress, your ability to cope diminishes, and there is a possibility of an emotional or physical disruption to your life.  Read the rest here

http://selfempoweredwoman.com/40/stress-...

Answer 4

i too am very afraid for flying and over the years I have found that diazapam (valium) has helped. I have prepared well in advance for my flight and taken fave magazines, soft drinks, music, nail file!, pen and paper to make lists.

If you are registered with a gp go there now. Say you had them on the way out here, BLUE ONES! (they are the strong ones) and say you took one every 4 hours and it kept you nice and chilled.

DO NOT DRINK - I find this makes me very stress full.

If you cannot get diazepam then I would advise getting some valarian - over the counter.

As fortheh distant relationship - look at it as a freshbreakk for you both. you may find that you miss him dearly and you want to spend the rest of your life with him or you may meet someone else.

don't hang about for your man, get on in your home town and the 4 months will fly by (ignore the pun)

Answer 5

dont worry. it will be quick as having an injection done  

Answer 6

Stress toys always work for me.

Answer 7

Ask your doctor to prescribe either valium or ativan. They are both very good anti anxiety drugs.

Answer 8

jesus said take one day at a time, each day has enough worries of its own, if you concern yourself with too many things you can become worried pray to God he will help you give all your cares to him cos you are important to him and ask for protection.

Answer 9

speak to your doctor, he can maybe prescribe you a calming drug or uggest something. You will be fine. 4 months isnt really very long.

Answer 10

you have issues.. you need to move in the bf till he goes home with you.

Answer 11

First, if you have no history of substance abuse, I would see a doctor who can prescribe you a small amount of anti-anxiety medications that will help with your flight..if you are over 21, eve na couple of drinks on the plane will ease the time and you can bring a small laptop for music and DVD movies, even a good book or talking to your neighbor on the plane can ease the ride over....

Next, the long-distance thing....look on the bright side. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, imagine how great it will see when you finally meet each other when he lands on the plane and you see each other for the first time in four months...your heart will race, plams sweaty, it will be a magical moment!!  For the time, focus on yourelf and learn a hobby, do volunteer work, focus on things that normally you wouldn't have time for...and in the grand scheme of life four months isn't that long..trust in him, yourself nad your realtionship and things will be fine....

Answer 12

don't focus on what is going to happen focus on what is happening

hope this helps

=p

Answer 13

If you have panic attacks, you need to have the doctor prescribe something like Xanax....a really bad panic attack can lead to a heart attack, which happened to me 8 years ago.

Don't fool around with panic attacks..they can be extremely serious.