I am so unhappy and I feel trapped. How can I get out?

Question

I am married and have a 3 1/2 year old son. My husband has become miserable to live with. It is causing terrible problems with my son. If I tell my son he cannot have something, my husband will give it to him. He will spank him for having an accident in his pants.He tells my son to hate mommy.

I was injured while working as a paramedic and am on disability. I have a spinal injury and get around slow. I have called Social Security to see if they have some sort of assistance for housing, but they do not. I have talked to the employment office and they said they do not have anything I could do that wouldn't jeopardize my benefits. I am not lazy, I will do what I can to work...but if I loose my benefits, then I couldn't make enough to even pay childcare expenses.

I also have a 19 year old son that is in college. I have been paying what financial aid does not cover. He works part time so I doubt he could help much financially. He said he cannot stand to live with his father much more. He said he would quit school and work full time and move out if he can't come up with something soon. I really want him to get his education. I don't know how I can afford to move away from this miserable situation. Any suggestions. I cannot stand it much more.

Answer 1

am feel for u..do have parents or friend or sister u can move in for a while.good luck

Answer 2

Listen honey, get out of that situation.

It is not good for you and it is terrible for YOUR CHILD, and your CHILD comes first.

Call a woman's shelter....you are being abused, mentally ...and so is your child.

Your child will grow up to be just like him, and hate women.

His behavior is actually telling you he wants out as well, he just can't find a way.

If there is no woman's shelter, call a crisis hot line in the area. Look up

in the yellow pages, or on line,

social services + city your in

A woman's shelter can hook you up with resources and support, and it should be for free.

Your in my thoughts and so are both your children.

Answer 3

Divorce!! You and your son are being subjected to mental abuse get out now while you can.

Answer 4

This man is emotionally abusing you and his son. Call your local domestic abuse hot-line. They can help guide you with this. Your older son sounds like he is ready to go too. Not good for him either. Perhaps your son is willing to take a semester break to help you and him get on the right track. Get some insight from your local Domestic Abuse Hot line. Call it. It could be the first step to your freedom, sanity, and piece of mind. Do it for the kids. They are in pain too. Good Luck.

Answer 5

i suggest you call an abuse hotline or one simiar to it.  you can get info and good ideas on how to get started on your own w/your children.  tell them it all and you dont have to tell them who you are, you can listen and decide first if you want to take their advice.  the father should pay child support so hopefully that will help.  have you been to marriage or family counceling?  i know this is a difficult time, ive been there.  hang in there, stay strong and like you are doing, get all the advice you can.  best to you and your children

Answer 6

divorce

Answer 7

get marriage counseling first, if that does not help, then divorce