I am stuck and depressed in the marriage. Plz help.?

Question

I got married to the wrong person when I was depressed and sad. I am an Indian and living in US. My husband is also Indian. He tries to make this marriage but most of the things which he does, I hate it to my skin. I just cant take them. That makes me unhappy all the time. I am never smiling or happy with him. We don't stay together. I am not sure when he says he loves me, whether he means them or lies. I don't like the way he is. I am suffering inside. He knows in his heart that I don't like him, but I am not very sure why he still wants to be with me. I feel frustrated.

Indian law, I am not sure how easy it is to get a divorce, but then I am suffering in this marriage. I am not happy emotionally as well as physically. What should I do? How can I make him to divorce me? As I am always upset, I cant talk nicely to him also. I feel pity on myself. Please help me. God bless you.

Answer 1

hey stickitangia D

you're a racist stupid person. Don't you have any respect for other people.

I'm sorry about your marriage. Have you tried to fall in love with him? He doesn't sound like a bad guy. Focus on his good qualities and see what happens. Take some counseling and find out if something else is bothering you besides been married to him. Life is too short to be unhappy and to focus on the bad things of life. Good luck

Answer 2

Married life is a bliss and marriage relationship is cherished………………..

But……………..

If you are reading this blog then maybe, just maybe there is some rift in your marriage,

some unpleasantness, some souring of your relationship, may be communication is not that effective any more,

maybe there is some resentment.

Well………. Are u living like just roommates?????

I just hope I can give you some advice on a successful relationship.

Please stop, think, no matter how tough it is “ask yourself”.

· Is this the marriage I dreamt of?

· Is this what is want out of life?

· Is there anything I can do to save my marriage?

Please take action now, even if you are the only one wanting to do so, wanting to keep your marriage. The first thing you must do is accept the situation as a given. Acknowledge your spouse's unhappiness. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with your mate’s reasons. Nor does it necessarily mean accepting your partner at her word if she says that she’s leaving.

It does mean that you need to accept the fact that your spouse is unhappy and has been unhappy for some time.

Maybe it has gotten to the point where you are past the constant fighting and all your relationship consists of now is the occasional nod to each other. Like living with a roommate. Is there any marriage to save?

Take action before you become just another statistic of divorce.

Remember there is still hope, remember God loves you and He wants you to Love.

See how one positive step by you begets another.

Just make an effort, a commitment a promise to yourself and follow this advice.

· Show that you CARE, show that you are concerned.

· LISTEN willing fully.

· Focus on REPAIR; see where you can fix the problem.

· When in DOUBT, seek help.

· Also, have FAITH; believe me this will be on great help.

Answer 3

Do you have family or friends you can turn to? I'm from the UK so I'm not sure about US divorce law, but you shouldn't have to suffer for the sake of a marriage. It sounds like this relationship is damaging to you and you need to leave? Is your husband violent or abusive towards you?

Sorry that there are more questions than answers here but you sound so unhappy I wish I could help.

Answer 4

If there's a tribal attorney, then that is where you need to go.

Life is too short to live like you've described.  

Be happy.

Answer 5

I feel sorry for you.I know what you are feeling right now since i'm in the same situation right now. Do you have children? That would make it worse. All that i can say is hang on. Find friends that you can talk to. Socialize more often.