I am thinking of adopting, are you glad you did or wish you'd waited with trying?

Question

I really want my own child. I have a stepson and even with loving him it wasn't the same as having my own. I want my own, but don't want to be selfish in the fact so many children need a home and I could easily give that to them. Is it wrong to feel this way? I have heard that when you adopt you usually end up getting pregnant, and I would love for that to happen but wouldn't want to overload myself either.

Anyone been through this, and if so how did you deal with it? thx!

Answer 1

Before you adopt, you need to get some counseling, both separately, and with your step-son.  Imagine being in his shoes.  Replacing him with another child (that's the way he might feel), is wrong, and you need to deal with the issues.  Talk, or have your husband talk, with the ex and find out what he says about you when he's there.  You might be surprised, either good or bad.  A new child in the home could make him go over the edge, and it wouldn't be fair on the new child either, because he could be an endangerment to it.