I am tired of being shy and quiet!!?

Question

i hate it. It might work for some people, but it doesnt suit my look. I tend to get very nervous in front of big groups and new people. If people didnt talk to me, i probably would not talk a lot in school. It really depends on who i am with. The bigger the group, the worse it is for me. I have been o n Weightwtchers for a few months and have lost 24 pounds, but i am still overweight. I am get very self-conscious which contributes to my shyness.I am sick of being stressed of what people will think of me, of if i act shy around them. Even when i dont try to act shy, people say i look nervous- even when i am not! And when am not, i dont think i look nervous at all. And my parents tell me that everyone is nervous like me, yeah right! When i go to my high school orientaions, everyone is so outgoing and talking to their old friends, that i dont know who to talk to. I am seriously on the point of ordering hypnosis CDs. I know thats dumb but i really want to change. And i dont think i can do it by myself

Answer 1

You need to learn to accept yourself for who you are and be more confident. You will never learn to be confident unless you become more comfortable with yourself. People are probably nervous around you because they can see that your not comfortable with yourself. Once you are more comfortable, they will be too. Just talk to a lot of people. Get yourself out there. I know it'll be hard at first, but once you loosen up, people will want to talk to you more. I hope that helps.

Answer 2

Sweetheart!

All I can say is that you need to realise you are not your body, you are the lovely soul inside.

Don't leave your worth and value to anyone else to decide, only you can truly find out what you are worth.

Some ways to think against the shy thoughts can be:

"Whatever I say will be received OK even if it doesn't seem as smart as I want t*t to be."

"Too bad if people don't like me, that's probably their problem anyway."

"I myself am OK even if I am a bit "off the wall" at times"

" Failing isn't fatal, it is just another chance to learn and grow."

"I beliong here, I'm accepted here, and too bad if I am not."

"Any feeling of fear are not to be worried about. They are only feelings after all."

"Every group needs fresh new members, so I'll probably be welcomed."

"Maybe what I have to say  is something others haven't thought of, and they'll appreciate that."

Hope some of that helps love

Mel

Answer 3

you need Christ